Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer

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Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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My experience telling people I worked with, is to be specific up front with your boss if you don’t want them to tell anyone. For me it was awkward because it was like a rumor spreading at the highest level, and people started asking me about it immediately, but I wasn’t ready to talk.  It’s gossip to some, but genuine from others.

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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@Mustangmama It is hard to figure out who to tell,you really never know how your family members and friends will react. Some people may try to drown you in support , even when you might want to be left alone. Others pretend nothings wrong because they are frightened just by the word "cancer" . Or they want you to feel "normal"when you are sick or sad  or tired, or you've gone bald. I am the kind of person that is a care taker , and does not do well when others want to care for me. I did appreciate their help especially when I was exhausted after the Nulasta shots I took the day following chemo. it was like a 24-36 hour flu. I did manage to tell people just exactly how much help and when I needed help. communication was key. Do not be afraid of telling family you need alone time , or you really need help. hugs, Denise


 

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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It is hard to figure out who to tell,you really never know how your family members and friends will react. Some people may try to drown you in support , even when you might want to be left alone. Others pretend nothings wrong because they are frightened just by the word "cancer" . Or they want you to feel "normal"when you are sick or sad or tired, or you've gone bald. I am the kind of person that is a care taker , and does not do well when others want to care for me. I did appreciate their help especially when I was exhausted after the Nulasta shots I took the day following chemo. it was like a 24-36 hour flu. I did manage to tell people just exactly how much help and when I needed help. communication was key. Do not be afraid of telling family you need alone time , or you really need help. hugs, Denise

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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I have noticed that I need to be more specific if I need help.  I am learning!

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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@Mustangmama I hope that things are going well with you . This site is a little hard for me to navigate. I will try to answer questions because I have been through a lot. I can only answer by my own experiences of course but I am happy to help if you have questions -Denise p.s. sorry it took so long to get back to you I am going to try to check in more often.

Advice on how to tell people I have breast cancer


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Thanks for asking, Denise. I got a little bad news last week. I had a large seroma (fluid accumulation) under my arm and incision. I had to get a new drain tube, but it comes out tomorrow and I should feel a lot better. The great news is that my Scores were low so I don't have to take chemo! I feel very blessed.

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