Has breast cancer affected your marriage or relationship? Share experiences, support, and advice.

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Lee__R

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Edited on 08/06/2019 at 4:24 AM

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Hi everyone,

Breast cancer often mentally, emotionally, and physically impacts the person diagnosed with breast cancer, as well as his or her spouse or partner. From the diagnosis and treatments to the medical appointments and financial burdens, breast cancer may impact marriages and relationships.

In this discussion, members - both those diagnosed with breast cancer and their spouses or partners - are encouraged to share their experiences and stories on how breast cancer affected their marriage or relationship, share advice, and give support.

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10/21/2019 at 10:56 PM

Thank you. I have amazing friends and family. And feeling good today. Prayers and hugs to you.

Has breast cancer affected your marriage or relationship? Share experiences, support, and advice. https://www.carenity.us/forum/breast-cancer/living-with-breast-cancer/did-breast-cancer-affect-your-marriage-or-relationship-share-experiences-support-and-advice-1204 2019-10-21 22:56:34

LoraThomas

10/24/2019 at 12:20 PM

My fiance cheated on me cause he didnt want me having fake brwasts after being diagnose with Ductoral Circanoma. 3 days after bilateral mastectomy he left me. After almost 2 decades he decided i wasnt good enough to keep because of breast cancer.

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sara_at32

01/22/2020 at 4:35 PM

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@LoraThomas I'm really sorry that happened to you. I'm scared of a mastectomy because I don't know if I can handle feeling disfigured. Have things gotten better for you since you last posted?

missshe

07/10/2020 at 5:49 PM

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I was just thinking about this today... I'm going through chemo again and I think the dynamic has really changed with my husband. He's afraid of hurting me I think and keeps a distance from me. I'm grateful for it on the days that I just feel sick and exhausted after treatment, but some days I wish he'd stop being delicate and just hold me like he used to. I'm afraid he doesn't find me or my body beautiful anymore.

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07/13/2020 at 12:02 AM

@missshe ,

If I may, you should not think it that way. Have you ever seen couples where he is very handsome and she is ugly and wonder how can that be? That is because beauty, I believe, is just a luring thing to allow reproduction but for a couple relationship to last a lifetime, other values come into play. Cancer cannot change values. Did you try talking to him?

stillwoman

08/07/2020 at 6:57 PM

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@missshe Hey, @Hazelio is right. Cancer can't change values. Your husband loves you for you, not just for your body. Definitely talk to him and tell him what you need. I definitely went through a rough patch like that after my mastectomy. I didn't love my body so I couldn't imagine anyone loving it either. But with time and healing and being honest with myself and my husband I knew that our love for each other was stronger than physical attributes. I'm still working on it, but I'm trying to love and accept my scars.

Sharon12!

06/25/2021 at 3:37 PM

@sara_at32 Yes, I don't really like how I look now- it takes a long time to get used to all the changes, but I AM ALIVE TODAY, and that makes it all worth it!