Patients Behavioural disorders / Mental illness
Topic of the discussion
Posted on 2/23/22 4:56 PM
How do you deal with people who tell you to "pull yourself together"? I always get hurt and frustrated. I can't seem to explain well enough to people around me, that depression is a disease - I can't just snap out of it.. I just become more sad when people push me like that. But I don't know what to say to them. I always just shut up. I need to learn to stand up for myself, but it is hard when I am already struggling.
Beginning of the discussion - 2/23/22"Pull yourself together!": Have you been told this? How to react? https://www.carenity.us/forum/behavioural-disorders-mental-illness/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/dealing-with-peoples-reactions-4227
Posted on 2/23/22 5:22 PM
Hi @gottgetbtr, thank you for opening this discussion and sharing what you've been going through. It can be really hard when people aren't willing to listen or understand what mental illness is really like. Let me tag some other members who can possibly share with you.
Hi everyone, how are you today?
Have you ever been told to "pull yourself together" or something similar talking about your mental health? How do you react to people who don't understand or are intolerant of your mental illness?
Posted on 2/23/22 7:11 PM
Yes I have been told to pull myself together, to grow up, to stop looking for pity, which I'm not. Growing up I was always told there's something wrong with me, that I don't use the brain God gave me, that I don't think about things. Alot of the time inside I feel like I'm turning to ash, that if I can't support myself I'm better off dead
Posted on 2/24/22 12:54 AM
@gottgetbtr I hate when someone says that to me! Or that you have to push yourself. I’m pushing as hard as I can! I tell them straight up, people with depression can’t just “snap out of it.” I wish I could. Like do they think that we WANT to feel sad and down all the time? I wouldn’t wish this disease on anyone!
Posted on 2/24/22 6:56 AM
I hate it when someone says push yourself , pull yourself together this disease is horrible don't wish it on noone
Posted on 2/25/22 1:27 AM
Pull yourself together, may have been acceptable in years past. Now, if I were suggested I do it, I'd get angry. Sadly that is my most comfortable emotion. I must change it, for health reasons. Heart, peace of mind, keeping my housing, etc. Pull yourself up by your bootstraps is equally offensive.
Posted on 2/25/22 6:53 PM
you just have to ignore them. they are ignorant and clearly have no idea what you are going through
Posted on 2/26/22 11:48 PM
Yes, I have. Many people do not understand depression is real and a phase. To say to snap out of it does not the person going through depression.
Posted on 3/3/22 5:30 PM
I've been told that many times for many years. I'm used to it now. It's something I've gotten used to having bipolar since around age 18. I have a habit of going off the deep end. It takes a lot for me to calm down. I have to take valium at times like this. Every one in my household gets mad at me, but I can't help it. I try my hardest to stay calm. It's just so very hard at times.
Posted on 3/23/22 2:37 AM
I have heard this and everyone has anxiety, depression, stress. All the assumptions that what one person goes through is the same as the other. So degrading. I know that it is ignorant, but so hard when you need for someone to understand and to listen. I go from extremes of talking to much to just not talking at all out of the guilt of what others will think. So hard to find the balance and not fall into the "stigma"