Patients Behavioural disorders / Mental illness
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Posted on 6/24/20 9:16 PM
My husband blames me for my depression .and when I talk to him about hurting my feelings .he says we'll you hurt my .I'm thinking it's time for a divorce I need advice am I over reacting
Beginning of the discussion - 6/24/20Being blamed for depression https://www.carenity.us/forum/behavioural-disorders-mental-illness/living-with-behavioural-disorders-mental-illne/being-blamed-for-depression-2105
Posted on 6/24/20 10:10 PM
@Marielilly Hi Marielilly, thank you for starting this discussion. I'm sorry to hear your husband is not understanding of your depression. Let me tag some other members who may be able to share their thoughts with you.
Hi everyone, how are you doing? Do you feel like your loved ones understand your depression? Have you ever been blamed for your own depression? What did you do? What can Marielilly do to help her husband understand? Do you have any advice ?
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Posted on 6/25/20 7:07 AM
@Marielilly My husband nor anyone in my family really believes that I have depression b/c they don't seem to believe it really exists so I kind of know how u feel. And I'm really sorry u have to go through this kind of pain on top of the depression. I'm going through a divorce as we speak due to my issues with depression and the unfortunate way I chose to deal with it (alcohol). But maybe u can see if ur husband would be willing to go to therapy with u so u can at least see if u can get past it. U definitely don't want to divorce without knowing that u at least exhausted all of ur options. That way, no matter what happens, at least u know u tried ur best. I do hope that u at least are going to therapy on ur own. Idk if this helped at all but I do hope it gets better for u soon!
Posted on 6/25/20 7:31 AM
I go to thearpy it helps alot I asked him to go with me he said no he said he would go by himself he hadn't did it yet .he never goes through with what he says I beginning to resent him
Posted on 6/26/20 12:34 AM
@Marielilly yes, I understand completely. My husband went with me once, didn't like the fact that they weren't just automatically taking his side (b/c they don't take sides) so refused to go back. He now thinks I'm just paying them to tell me what I want to hear. Ridiculous! Anyway, this isn't about me and my issues. I really hope you can figure things out and hopefully it will be before you truly start to resent him! I wish there were some encouraging words that I could give you but honestly, I have nothing, yet! I'll keep checking back though and see if you're okay.
Posted on 6/26/20 5:51 AM
Thank you for being there you can talk to me anytime
Posted on 6/27/20 4:31 AM
@Marielilly I just may have to because yesterday my husband told me that he wants to try to work things out but now tonight he just informed me that he's leaving and is going to his Mom's in another state and he has no clue how long he'll be gone or if he's even going to come back. I know that his family will definitely try to talk him into actually going through with the divorce and moving there with them because they hate me. They loved me until we got married and then all of a sudden felt like I "took" him away. Even though he still saw them all of the time and I barely saw my family! I'm scared because I really do love him so much and I'm scared to be left on my own because I don't trust myself. Not to mention he's leaving me with no money, no car, no food and no water. I'm not working because Noone is hiring and because he never wanted me to. Idk... I'm a huge mess right now! I'm not use to being away from him! Sorry, I know ur having a very difficult time too so I don't mean to make this about me. I hope u had a better day today!
Posted on 6/27/20 4:33 AM
@Marielilly and FYI u can talk to me any time as well. I don't sleep much so I'm always checking on here.
Posted on 6/29/20 5:54 PM
Thank you so much
Posted on 6/30/20 6:13 AM
My mental health is completely impaired and I don’t even know what to do with it. This happened after two months of self-isolation. I didn’t even think that after giving up walking and working from home, my life would become so unbearable. I just love an active lifestyle and it was just hell for me. Over time, I decided to use antidepressants, but the effect was negative and I had health problems. After that, I decided that by all means I could cope with my depression and after advising in various forums I decided to try kratom. You won’t believe it, but it really helped me. I found a great supplier [link removed by Moderator for violation of community standards] and they sell very high quality kratom.