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NancyH

01/10/2020 at 2:55 AM

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Anyone else struggling with if you should or shouldn’t tell someone that it’s back and terminal?

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sara_at32

01/22/2020 at 4:32 PM

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@NancyH Hey Nancy. This message just breaks my heart. I'm sorry about your situation and I imagine you must be feeling so alone. Have you decided to tell anyone?

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NancyH

01/22/2020 at 10:29 PM

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@sara_at32‍ I’ve told a select group but there is a particular person( my mother) who is very set in victim mentality who I’m struggling to feel confident telling. My perspective on this is diagnosis is all positive but her vibration is one that compels me to defend my self and my beliefs. I just don’t want to have anything to do with any negative infiltrating into my thoughts.

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01/31/2020 at 6:26 PM

I understand how you feel. It's certain people in my family that I had a hard time telling. I'm so sorry that you are going through that.

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sara_at32

02/11/2020 at 5:49 PM

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@NancyH I understand. Maybe it's best to not tell her for now. Either way, she'll suffer, but at least that way she can enjoy more time with you if she doesn't know.

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07/08/2021 at 7:19 PM

@Courtney_J I am getting very nervous and scared because the surgery is July 13, 2021. My parents both died this year so I dont have them to talk to. My mom died on Feb 16, 2021 with a sickness she was suffering for 18 months so i was dealing with that for the last months and then my dad had a major stroke 3 weeks after my mom passed away and he could no longer go back to his assistance living so we had to find a nursing home. We found one he was only in there 3 weeks and then he passed away on May 6, 2021. Right after all that I was diagnosed with cancer so I have been on a train that is non-stop. I feel like I am so tried out and I dont have much energy left. My sisters are not helpful they keep telling me just pray. They both got to take 2 weeks vacation after my mom and dad passed away. I have not even had time to take a breather I am just on the train of bad luck. That is how I am feeling.

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