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Missing my dauther after she moved out. How to be ok with children growing up?
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LizziB
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Hi @brokencookie
How are you doing today?
I'm sorry you are feeling worried, I think this is a natural reaction to having your kids move out for the first time. You should be very proud and trust that you raised a daughter who can take care of herself and be independent. @Idunnoanymore @Rfilip @AnoushkaBose @jgolf68 @Ajit05 @dpaulovich @CarBella @windy10s @rrodri12000 @capri3 @churcberna @paulak @thegurns @hpollo40 @tabroz @macausa08 @Gladams @JuleeCade @jimmyd @SisterK @rellww @Monyamane @Dada2115 @Spofford @KDoaap @Verycansada @daybyday2 @JennaRae @nkarim @mrscarone @charding8290
Do you have children? Have they moved out? Did you experience Empty Nest Syndrome? Did it get easier? How do you cope?
Take care,
Lizzi from the Carenity team

👨👩👧👦The empty nest syndrome is a set of feelings felt by parents whose children leave home.In the US, most young people aged 27 do not live with their...
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kisslamarre
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Empty nest is terrible to deal with. I wish I had known before it got to that point. My wife and I waited to have kids and then what seems like a blink of an eye they are adults and independent. We love our kids and miss them terribly. We facetime and talk on the phone however our home is very quiet. Some days are better than others.
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Dada2115
Yeah me currently if you wanna talk about maybe you can give me call or text sincerely
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brokencookie
@Dada2115 I would love to! I am sorry to hear that you are going through that as well... I hope it gets better for both of us.
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@brokencookie yes maybe we can give each other a call 📱 love hear from you [This content has been moderated by an administrator] sincerely
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charding8290
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Hi brokencookie,
I can relate to what you are going through. When my daughter went to college in Jacksonville, FL (we live in Maryland) I cried like a baby every time she had to go back after school breaks, what helped me some was my son was still living at home. When my daughter graduated and came home she stayed only 2 weeks telling me she wanted to move back to Florida, she said "you don't want me to go do you?" Of course I replied no but also told her that it was her decision and I am proud of the young woman she became, truthfully I was scared to death because she was going to be so far away, worried about her safety, etc. but I often told myself that this is what we raise our children to become, independent. Of course I still had my son living with me but then that all came to a crashing halt, when, after living together for 37 years my son and I had to go our separate ways, that was one of the hardest days of my life, now I would be on my own with my son living 3 hours away from me and my daughter living in Florida, I was a total and complete basket case. Well after living in Florida for 10 years my daughter moved back to Maryland about 3 years ago and we got a place together about a year ago.
Now having said all that I can tell you it does get easier, I think it is important to let your daughter know how proud you are of her, send her messages letting her know you are thinking about her but don't get upset if she doesn't respond immediately. Also, I don't know if you work, if not look into some volunteering opportunities that may be available where you live, also if you can find local groups that interest you see about joining them, if you go to church talk to your pastor about connecting with other members of the church. If you want to connect with me I would love that as well, just let me know how best we can connect.
I hope this helps you at least a little.
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brokencookie
@charding8290 Hi,
Thank you so so much for sharing your story. It made me feel a little less lonely. I can't even talk to my daughter on Facetime because if I see her face I start crying. I think I can take some extra shifts at work to keep myself busy. She told me that she can create a profile for me on some dating website LOL. Once I feel a bit better I will give it a try!
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Morckster
I went through the same thing when my daughter went to college. I didn't realize how much I relied on her for socialization and support. I could not wait to see her again and would pressure heron this then feel so selfish. I wanted her to be independent and have a healthy life. It has gotten better with a lot of tears and loneliness I had to work through my own issues and be honest with one friend since I was embarrassed that it consumed me so. So it is good to reach out and know you are not the only one.
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brokencookie
Hello everyone. I have felt very sad and anxious since my 22-year-old daughter moved out this summer. I am divorced and don't talk to most of my family so for many years it was me and her against the world and now she moved out to start a job in a different state. I feel scared for her and for myself as well. What if something happens and there is no one to help her? I am diabetic so I also worry about not having anyone to check up on me daily. I think I should be proud of her independence but I am mostly just worried about every single thing. It feels like heartbreak. Has anyone had a similar experience? Does it pass?