Patients Multiple sclerosis
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Posted on 7/27/18 12:46 AM
Hello everyone! I am new to this site, my name is Stephanie. I have had MS for 22years and been married for 26 years. Recently my husband has said that he is reaching a point of being overwhelmed and consumed by having MS in his life. It is making him feel like he will never be able to move forward in his life and truly be content and happy. He has been my rock through this whole journey and loves me deeply. He does not go to support groups and doesn't think counseling will help( or is just not receptive to that idea) and I am struggling with how to navigate my way through this. I do realize that it isn't my fault but I want more than anything for him to be happy. I'm stuck y'all, any suggestions or guidance would be greatly appreciated. Love and hope to everyone!!
Beginning of the discussion - 7/27/18Surviving marriage through the mess of MS https://www.carenity.us/forum/multiple-sclerosis/living-with-multiple-sclerosis/surviving-marriage-through-the-mess-of-ms-308
Posted on 7/27/18 4:10 AM
Hi Stephanie! Welcome to Carenity.
What does your husband mean that he is reaching his point of overwhelmed and consumed? Does he mean he feels the need to leave the relationship? I understand the difficulty that this is brining on you and your husband. I do not have MS, but I suffer from other chronic conditions, which is not easy on my spouse either, I am sure. I complain a lot and nag a lot about my limitations that this condition has brought upon me.
It is definitly not your fault. I understand when you say you want him to be happy... I always want my spouse to be happy and don;t want to drag her down.
May I ask what your husband meant when he said that to you? What is your marriage like? Is it going well? I really hope to be of some help here.
Posted on 7/28/18 7:04 PM
Our marriage has had it's ups and downs through all of this but is strong and loving. Him saying he is overwhelmed means he feels consumed by it and might be reaching a breaking point. We are doing our best to work through it. Has nothing to do with him not loving me, it's beyond love.
thank you for the encouragement