Prostate Cancer - How did you tell family and friends about your diagnosis?

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Hi, I just found this site so this is my first post. I hope I'm doing this right.

I've just found out that I have prostate cancer and I'm reeling. I know that I need to take the time to understand this myself, but I'm already thinking about the next steps. How am I going to tell my family? My friends? I don't know what to do or say and I don't want it to be a big dramatic thing. I know I need to tell them, but when? How?

Can anyone give me any advice? When did you tell your family and friends? How did you do it?

Thanks,

Paul

Beginning of the discussion - 4/29/20

Prostate Cancer - How did you tell family and friends about your diagnosis?

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@PTaylor16 Hello Paul, welcome to Carenity. I'm sorry you're going through that, receiving a diagnosis like that can be hard to process, especially if you're going it alone. Let me tag some members who may be able to share their experience.

Hello members, I hope you don't mind that I've tagged you. How did you tell your family and friends about your diagnosis? Did you wait a bit to process it, or did you tell them straight away? In person? Over the phone? What worked for you? Can you share any advice with Paul?

@JosephBosch@Billy10@Ibrock324@mchase54@FranPro@Noggin@Gonzo8@DannDon@dsmith45@breeze@mikev1979@Thatcher@Jagcbs1953@Mpie22@Igypop@waynemerrill875@chuprin@oregonroofer‍ 

Take care,

Courtney

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Paul,

Hearing the C word will throw you for a loop for sure. Telling your family depends on the age of the kids. Mine were all over 20, so I told them over a family Sunday dinner. If my kids were young, I would handle it differently.

I have been dealing with this for 15 months. I chose surgery first, then the PSA started creeping up over the next 12 months. One year post surgery to the day, they determined I needed additional treatments. Over the past year and a half, I have learned a ton about my condition and found some great resources. I would be happy to share my email if Courtney can make that happen.

You are your own advocate. The more you know, the better your outcome will be.

Russ

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Paul, I didn't have the family announcement to much because the cancer runs in our family, my father, brother etc. My 2 children were very supportive as were my friends. I was 75 when diagnosed and my doctor did not want to do the surgery at that age, I did the heavy 5 day radiation (the 30 day lesser seemed like along time then) but i need up doing 40 days in the bariatric chamber for an hour or so a day. I still have some bladder problems, wear pads. I exercise everyday and play a lot of golf. Any questions that I can help you with feel free to ask. I am 77 now

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@FranPro @looper Thank you both for your advice. I managed to break it to my wife but I haven't talked about it with my friends or kids yet what with the virus going on and some friends having health conditions that made them isolate. I figure it's a conversation that needs to be done in person.

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@PTaylor16 Do it in your own time, when you're ready. It's your body, your situation, do what YOU need to do to be ok. When I told everyone I made sure to let them know that I needed them to be normal and not treat me like a ticking time bomb. Most of them got it and gave me my space to breathe and come to them if I needed. I think telling them that helped.

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@superman Thanks, that seems to be an important thread in it all and that's what I ended up doing. I hope this can help future members too.

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