Ive been looking for a place to talk about my feelings and let my thoughts out and reddit but the places I tried didn’t seem to be too helpful, hopefully this can help at least a little.
So I’ve noticed recently that I’ve gotten to be very unmotivated. Cleaning my room, looking for things that would benefit my future.. or just simply anything that has to do with me doing anything that even the slightest of being active, sometimes even getting out of bed to walk to the shower.
Overall I’ve had a good life. I had a job during a global pandemic, an amazing supportive and loving boyfriend, being surrounded by family that always expresses their love. I’ve really had life the easy way compared to others. Besides all of that, my grandma got diagnosed with lung cancer four months ago and long story short it has gotten into her brain and she wasn’t doing too well so I began taking care of her. My boyfriend and family are really my only source of happiness. When I’m alone I am constantly feeling lonely and hate doing things without my boyfriend or hate my boyfriend doing things without me.
I can be selfish I suppose, I feel lonely when he’s not on the phone with me, working, or out to eat with family. For 2-3 years he spent 24/7 with me but once we became considered adults our time together started to minimize and it seems to just be getting harder and harder, especially because we are 2,000+ miles away from each other. My boyfriend is very self motivated and seems to be pretty prepared for adulting and of course wants the best for himself and his family, and our future family.. so he works hard and spends a lot of time learning and pursuing his dreams.
I don’t look forward to benefiting myself unless it’s benefiting my family or my boyfriend. I don’t really get excited about things anymore unless it’s involving someone I love. When I’m around family I guess I get in a “zone” and feel completely different from when I’m by myself. I just always feel so alone when I’m alone, makes sense right? I don’t remember feeling this way years ago or months ago. Months ago I was so excited to work and figure out what I wanted to do with my life.
Now, months later; I just don’t know what I want to do, I feel lost and unmotivated. I don’t really seem to have interested in the activities that I used to, I used to have a “passion” for makeup but now I don’t really have the motivation to even pick up anything that has to do with makeup. I get easily irritated, it’s hard to concentrate and I always forget what I’m talking about.
I don’t really know what’s going on or “what’s wrong with me” but I’m at the point where I’m just clueless and am confused on how I’m feeling because I’m always told that I’m the light of the room or the source of someone else’s happiness.. It's just all so confusing.
Im not writing all this for sympathy, or for someone to “diagnose” me. Just want to vent and know that my feelings are understood and not necessarily relatable because I know feeling like this sucks.. But it’s just nice to let this out.
:)
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Dima38
09/13/2020 at 9:31 AM
I fail to follow this all of the time, but don't let your feelings be based solely by the presence and/or absence of others, Only you can make yourself happy. However you accomplish this happiness is all up to you, but I will try to help the best that I can.
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jasmine1092
09/14/2020 at 7:08 PM
Good advisor
@avxxesaa Hey, you're not alone. I get that feeling of needing to just get things out of your head and onto a page. It sounds like you've been through a lot, with your grandma and your job situation and then of course the pandemic. And your boyfriend, who sounds is an important part of your life, being far away. And sometimes it's so hard to process and understand what we feel. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, things will work themselves out in time. I think society puts so much pressure on us to have everything figured out and to have a specific path or direction. Just take the time to breathe, have a think, explore your passions and interests, and things will become clearer for you. :)
Not diagnosed - Depressionhttps://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/symptoms-and-complications-of-depression/not-diagnosed-depression-24992020-09-14 19:08:09
avxxesaa
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09/14/2020 at 8:49 PM
@jasmine1092 Thank you so much for reading my long rant. It makes me feel a lot better just by being told that I’m not alone. Everyone surrounded by me always has described me as strong, but recently I’ve been feeling the complete opposite and knowing that people think I’m so strong makes me feel weak. There’s always so much on my mind but when it comes to describing my feelings I don’t know how to get them out. I don’t know if these things sound like depression or what it could be but I wish I could know why I’m feeling like this. But again, thank you for reading and giving me this advice. It really helped. :)
Not diagnosed - Depressionhttps://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/symptoms-and-complications-of-depression/not-diagnosed-depression-24992020-09-14 20:47:58
Ruby12
12/14/2020 at 7:12 PM
so I’ve tried to talk to two hotlinesand they really didn’t help me I really just need someone to listen please
Not diagnosed - Depressionhttps://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/symptoms-and-complications-of-depression/not-diagnosed-depression-24992020-12-14 19:12:21
Krissb123
12/14/2020 at 9:20 PM
Good advisor
@avxxesaa Heyyyy. First off, I’m so sorry about your Gram! That alone is hard. Second, I just wanted to say, don’t be so hard on yourself. You don’t have to have it all figured out. It takes times. Heck I’m 41 and I still don’t have it all figured out. We do that as we go. And I get what you mean. People saying your so strong making you feel weak. I’ve had depression and anxiety as long as I can remember. And people all my life, when they have found out have said...what?! You have that?! You’re always so happy and funny and calm. They have no idea what goes on inside our minds or how we feel when we’re alone. I also have a very hard time being alone. It’s def good to talk about it. It helps. But maybe talk to your doc about it too? Just a suggestion. Take it or leave it. I was in my 20s when I finally opened up to my doc about these feelings and they helped me a lot. And always here if you want to vent :)
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Not diagnosed - Depressionhttps://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/symptoms-and-complications-of-depression/not-diagnosed-depression-24992020-12-14 21:20:48
avxxesaa
Hello.
Ive been looking for a place to talk about my feelings and let my thoughts out and reddit but the places I tried didn’t seem to be too helpful, hopefully this can help at least a little.
So I’ve noticed recently that I’ve gotten to be very unmotivated. Cleaning my room, looking for things that would benefit my future.. or just simply anything that has to do with me doing anything that even the slightest of being active, sometimes even getting out of bed to walk to the shower.
Overall I’ve had a good life. I had a job during a global pandemic, an amazing supportive and loving boyfriend, being surrounded by family that always expresses their love. I’ve really had life the easy way compared to others. Besides all of that, my grandma got diagnosed with lung cancer four months ago and long story short it has gotten into her brain and she wasn’t doing too well so I began taking care of her. My boyfriend and family are really my only source of happiness. When I’m alone I am constantly feeling lonely and hate doing things without my boyfriend or hate my boyfriend doing things without me.
I can be selfish I suppose, I feel lonely when he’s not on the phone with me, working, or out to eat with family. For 2-3 years he spent 24/7 with me but once we became considered adults our time together started to minimize and it seems to just be getting harder and harder, especially because we are 2,000+ miles away from each other. My boyfriend is very self motivated and seems to be pretty prepared for adulting and of course wants the best for himself and his family, and our future family.. so he works hard and spends a lot of time learning and pursuing his dreams.
I don’t look forward to benefiting myself unless it’s benefiting my family or my boyfriend. I don’t really get excited about things anymore unless it’s involving someone I love. When I’m around family I guess I get in a “zone” and feel completely different from when I’m by myself. I just always feel so alone when I’m alone, makes sense right? I don’t remember feeling this way years ago or months ago. Months ago I was so excited to work and figure out what I wanted to do with my life.
Now, months later; I just don’t know what I want to do, I feel lost and unmotivated. I don’t really seem to have interested in the activities that I used to, I used to have a “passion” for makeup but now I don’t really have the motivation to even pick up anything that has to do with makeup. I get easily irritated, it’s hard to concentrate and I always forget what I’m talking about.
I don’t really know what’s going on or “what’s wrong with me” but I’m at the point where I’m just clueless and am confused on how I’m feeling because I’m always told that I’m the light of the room or the source of someone else’s happiness.. It's just all so confusing.
Im not writing all this for sympathy, or for someone to “diagnose” me. Just want to vent and know that my feelings are understood and not necessarily relatable because I know feeling like this sucks.. But it’s just nice to let this out.
:)