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Multiple myeloma: How did you tell family and friends about your diagnosis?
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@Courtney_J I told my family almost right away. My husband couldn't come with me to my appointments but he was the first person I told after I got the news. My children are grown and out of the house so I waited until I could see them in person (fortunately they don't live far), it felt important to me that they be there in front of me. They were all wonderful about it - emotional of course, but ready to jump in and be there for me.
With friends it was a bit different, I did wait a little before telling them, mostly for myself to have the time to process everything and figure out what the next steps were. Some have stayed with me but others have sort of drifted away... Covid obviously doesn't help with that since I stay home mostly to stay safe since I'm in treatment, but now I know who are true friends through thick and thin.
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I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.
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I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.
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Hello everyone,
How are you doing today?
Being diagnosed with cancer can sometimes change the relationships we have with others - some may jump to one's side, others may not know how to react.
How did you tell your family and friends about your diagnosis? Did you wait a bit to process it, or did you tell them straight away? In person? Over the phone? Or did you decide to not tell them at all?
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