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Posted on 1/8/20 9:07 AM
Hi I’m 20 years old I had unprotected sex oct 4 I started thinking and having symptoms about hiv a month afterwards. Someone said something to me and it freaked me out. I don’t know what to do you guys I’m so scared I really need a peace of mind 😔 I got tested for HIV and almost the end of November before thanksgiving and the test was negative but I googled HIV so I could learn more about it and now I feel like I had false negative test so please you guys please tell me some of your early symptoms.
Beginning of the discussion - 1/8/20I’m not sure if I’m positive but I would really like to know some of your symptoms https://www.carenity.us/forum/hivaids/living-with-hivaids/im-not-sure-if-im-positive-but-i-would-really-1441
Posted on 1/8/20 3:20 PM
This topic is what brought me to the chat room. I am so afraid that I am paralyzed with fear to the point of suicidal thoughts. I
Went and got tested and thank God that the results were negative but I know I need test up until 90 days from the date I had sex.
I'm also beating myself up with the thoughts of how poor of a choice it was to have unprotected sex and am convinced that I need sex therapy or something because of this risky behavior.
As for the original post I think you're fine because your test was almost 2 months after the date of intercourse however, for your peace of mind you need to be tested again.
Posted on 1/8/20 4:29 PM
Hello @Jesuslovesme and @Dotcom0100
Thanks for your comments and welcome to the forum. I understand your anguish and hope that everything turns out for the best. Feel free to post any other questions you may have or updates on your status.
Wishing you the best,
Posted on 1/9/20 8:30 PM
Thanks you, I appreciate it
Posted on 1/11/20 1:20 PM
I am a peer counselor at a FL Health Department, due to being HIV positive since 1996. So if you have questions, don't hesitate to ask.
I've never had any symptoms, other than issues with meds, so am interested in knowing what symptoms you are experiencing. My concern is that you might have other STI that wasnt tested for. Kudos to you for getting tested!
I'm hoping your experience will encourage you to protect yourself in the future. I believe I got HIV, from my now ex husband, but I too, had had unprotected sex when young, and wish I had had more self worth then, and require the use of condoms. Remember, you cant tell what anybody might have, and they probably won't tell you, or they might not know. I encourage people to ask a new potential relation, to ask to go get tested, before getting intimate. If they say they've been tested, make sure you see proof of the negative result. But it's best to ask for another test anyway. Remember though, they still might have another STI, so protect yourself anyway. If they don't want to use condoms, then they aren't considering your well being, which should be a red flag, and you will likely not be treated with the respect you deserve.
Being HIV positive or having AIDS, is no longer a death sentence, thanks to the meds these days. I've seen many newly diagnosed people who were very sick, with viral loads in the millions, and cd4 counts in single digits, get on their medications, and within a few months to a year, become undetectable. I've been undetectable for almost as long as I've been positive. These days, the virus is considered chronic, like diabetics, but easily maintained. The stigma and people's ignorance and fear of the disease, is the hardest part, for me.
If you are feeling like you should see a therapist, by all means, look into it. Feeling the need for therapy, and following thru with seeking help is not easy, but you will definitely benefit and feel better, when you do.