Depression and relationships: Does your depression make you question your relationships?
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Hello everyone, I'm new to this group chat and I've been in a state of depression for quite some time now. I've recently opened up some past wounds to get closure and have been doing a lot of thinking. I feel like I got into this relationship for all the wrong reasons but I'm not sure if thats the depression talking or me. When you're in love with someone and you get depression is it normal to question your relationship or is your relationship the one thing you trust when you know they're the one? I'm not sure anymore if he is but I also don't know if its the depression talking. Thank you in advance for any advice, it means a lot.
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It sounds like your husband cares for you. In that respect you are very lucky. Try and make your feelings toward him more positive.
My husband is supportive but has a hearing problem. We have been married 47 years. When we married i knew he had a hearing problem but it wasn't as bad as it is today. Tony can't hear out of his left ear and only 40% in the other. He wears a hearing aid and always has but as he gets older his hearing disminages a lot. I talk but he doesn't hear me. I feel like i am living alone with no one to talk with. It is very depressing. I understand he has a problem and didn't want to be deaf but doesn't anyone understand how i feel?
His hearing has gotten worse and it has effected me in leaps and bounds. Does anyone have any ideas what i can do to be able to handle this problem?
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WITH MY DEPRESSION I HAVE ABANDENMENT ISSUES, MY EX HUSBAND LEFT ME AND MY DAUGHTER WHEN SHE WAS 8 MONTHS, NO EXPLANATION NOTHING. 3 MONTHS LATER HE HAS A GF AND WITHIN 2 MONTHS ENGAGED AND MARRIED. MY FATHER HAS PASSED FROM CANCER, HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND. I KNOW HE DIDNT WANT TO DIE I FEEL AS THOUGH HE LEFT ME PERSONALLY. SO NOW WHEN I GET IN RELATIONSHIPS I HAVE THE GET YOU BEFORE U GET ME ATTITUDE. WHEN STARTS TO GET SERIOUS I START THE FIGHTS I START THE BREAKUP CAUSE I WANT TO HURT THEM BEFORE THEY CAN HURT AND LEAVE ME.
@sandwhichcakes You overthink a lot in relationships, huh? I'm very toxic cause I have trust issues and what I've gone through in my past. Sorry to hear about your dad
I DO I OVERTHINK IN EVERYTHING. I ANALYSEVERY SITUATION,
IF I KNOW SOMETHING IS COMING UP COULD BE ANYTHING ALL WEEK IM ANALYSING AND WHEN ITD TIME TO DO IT. ILL PRETEND IM SICK SO DPNT HAVE TO GO /
MY SOCIAL ANXIETY IS BAD
Do you have many friends? and I just let my instincts and my over-thinking get in the way of everything. My Ex (my mom made us break up, but we still love and talk to each other) anyways, I would always trip on him out of nowhere because of how bad I overthink. He's a really great guy and I would sometimes treat him according to what happened to me in the past. Which isn't fair to him, but I'm getting a little better. I understand the social thing. I'm only like that around a group of MEN though. I'm very social with everybody except for a group of men. I don't trust very many guys, I'm comfortable around my guy friends, but no one else. I get scared that they might try to do something to me. When I'm around family members, I try to look as tomboyish as possible. I get uncomfortable when I'm around some men and I look good.
IM SORRY FOR YOU FEELING THAT WAY.
WAS DATING A GUY FOR 2 YRS AND I KEPT PUSHING MAKING EXCUSES NOT TO BE TOGETHER AND HE STUCK THROUGH IT I THINK HE UNDERSTANDS NOW THATI JUST NEED ME TIME ALONE
That's how mine was. He's still here for me, even though my mom tries to split us apart. He got me to open up to him, and I never do that. I trust him, he understands me and why I am the way I am.
I've lived with depression and anxiety also ptsd and bi polar. I take medication but doesn't help. My husband doesnt understand or even try to do so. I feel trapped in my own mind every second of the day. I wish I could sleep all time. I hate living ! But don't consider suicide simply because I know it's a sin and I want so bad to be with my son who went to Heaven in 2017, But I do pray that my life will be over soon so the pain and worthlessness will be over ! I don't talk to anyone about my problems i feel it's my cross to bare and don't want to be a bother to anyone ! I'm so lost and so alone ! Why can't I just disappear !
@LostInThisLonelyWorld I can relate to so many things you said
@sandwhichcakes I do the same thing. It’s very difficult but you are not alone
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