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Struggling with grief after losing my mom

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10/24/2020 at 3:50 AM

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Hello everyone, new to this forum but its to the point where I needed to talk to others. I'm 22 have a fiance and a beautiful baby boy I have a great job but my problem lies in my past, you see I lost my caring mother she was 51 and had a massive heart attack unexpected in her sleep since then the family has fallen apart I feel myself putting up a shield with my feelings my family doesn't talk to each other anymore she was the glue holding us tougher. Since my son has been born the family doesn't seem to really reach out and talk or FaceTime to see him I have my finances family and thats all but I find myself still with a missing void that my mom missed out on so much I would really appreciate anyone's input I just feel like I never grieved properly and its all my fault I fall back into my old ways when I didn't have anyone 

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10/26/2020 at 5:52 PM

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@joshfred756 Hi joshfred756, thank you for sharing what you're going through. I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Going through the process of grieving is hard enough, but I'm sure it's even harder in these difficult times. Let me tag some other members who can possibly share their thoughts with you.

Hi everyone, how are you doing? Have you ever lost someone close to you? If so, how did you cope with the grief? Do you have any advice or words of support to share with joshfred756?
@amella‍ @kristina‍ @heroinfather‍ @NicoleBowler‍ @Annamariethornton‍ @Jewels13‍ @jenni_ferguson‍ @Catlady13‍ @amgomez305‍ @cindy66‍ @AllisonMoore‍ @hootiethezombie‍ @Craziness‍ @abiiirimgale‍ @Bridgete317‍ @Miah143‍ 

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Struggling with grief after losing my mom https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/not-sure-if-im-in-the-right-place-2677 2020-10-26 17:52:23

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11/01/2020 at 9:53 PM

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I lost my dad in 2015.  Lost my mom to a broken heart in 2017.  Yes they were married for 60 years.   She couldn't be without him.  I was still reeling in a bad way from dad passing then I got worse when mom passed.  I have no family other than my daughter and grandchildren.  It's rough.  Sometimes I catch myself shutting down and my fiance is very supportive.   He has stood by me through it all.  12 years and still going .   But I have my days.  Lately I have been having nightmares about it all.  But I cope.  We had to leave where I lived all of my life and moved just him and I to another state.  I had been sneaking out and spending my nights in the cemetery.  Now when I go home it's to visit my daughter and grandchildren.  I go to the cemetery cry say hi.  Then fly home.  It gets easier for most.  I just haven't been able to let go.


Struggling with grief after losing my mom https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/not-sure-if-im-in-the-right-place-2677 2020-11-01 21:53:51

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11/23/2020 at 12:08 PM

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@Icewench63  sorry it took so long to get back to you haven't been on in some time, my my apologies it seems to me that even family moves on for some strange reason but to tell you honestly I look forward to my son and fiancée seems you half to look out for yourself these days in my situation I wish things where different it seems you give a 100 miles for family and don't even get an inch I've spent my whole life trying to please others when I'm not happy myself and to me thats not fair but anyway I'm sorry to hear about your nightmares I can relate in some ways I have flashbacks mainly around the holidays about my mom I just wish she could be here for her grandchild. Hope you have a nice Thanksgiving holiday best regards and thank you for responding to my post ill be sure to look back 


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11/24/2020 at 4:17 PM

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On March 23 2020 I lost my high school sweetheart from 40 years ago to 3 different  kinds of Cancer. It's  the hardest thing I've ever tried to do in my 58 yrs of life..God Bless you both. Your in my prayers. 🙏🙏

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Struggling with grief after losing my mom https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/not-sure-if-im-in-the-right-place-2677 2020-11-24 16:17:19

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11/25/2020 at 8:07 AM

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Hi,

I’m new in this group,

13 years ago today 11/24/07 I lost my Mother, from Dementia, I took her death really hard, I went into a very deep depression, It was so bad that I  had to be put in a hospital,  under a 51/50, 

I keep the depression to my self, my family did not even know about it  finely after a few months I notify my doctor, after that I have been seeing a mental health specialist, 

today is my mother’s anniversary date, and it is hard on me, I have been told that it does  get  easier as time goes by, but to me, it fills the same, 

 

 

 

 


Struggling with grief after losing my mom https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/not-sure-if-im-in-the-right-place-2677 2020-11-25 08:07:08

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Edited on 11/07/2021 at 2:08 AM

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September 3rd of this year was the 4 year anniversary of her death,  a little update would be not much has changed with family from my original post my son is learning to walk now. At times I feel myself in moods to when my mom first left me like a bipolar state I just shut down is this a normal feeling? I have her ashes at my house now I find myself talking and venting to her at times hoping I might be able to get a sign that she’s still here in some way. With the holidays approaching fast I reflect a lot thinking of things my mom has missed out on. Wishing you all a happy holiday season and looking forward to your input and thank you all for your support.


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11/07/2021 at 2:45 AM

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I lost my sweet Mom in 2016 and I took it hard. I saw her in August and in September she was gone. It was like I was saying my final goodbye. It hurt so bad I told my husband I don't have anybody and he said baby,you have me. Then the next hard blow was I was forbidden to talk or text my son. I tried to live without my son and I took a chance n got my son back in my life. Then I got in unexpected surprise my daughter came into my life and blessing me with my first grandchild. Now I don't think I am alone cause I have a beautiful family that loves n accepts me.


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@HQ1127  I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mom, it’s like a nightmare the day they go. Sometimes the day replays in my head fortunately I got to spend the morning going to breakfast and lunch with her like a final joy ride, I’m happy to hear about your granddaughter it’s a true blessing although a small family they truly care about you and that’s all that matters. I don’t have much for family either but i love the ones that I do have I appreciate you sharing with me it means more than you think, most times I reach out on here to hear others thoughts and feelings a judgment free zone.


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Anyone awake, just came across this discussion group & 100% relate to ??

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.....anyone ?

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