Posted on 10/25/19 11:23 PM
I have three best friends who I can count on no matter what. One is my youngest daughter, another is my second husband (we've been married for 35 years), and the third is a guy I grew up with who is not a relative but as far as we're concerned we're brother and sister. I did have three other best friends but, alas, they have passed away. So, in my 78 years on this earth I've had six people I could always count on and who could always count on me. I've been well and truly blessed.
Posted on 10/26/19 1:37 AM
I would rather be a friend to someone than have a lot of friends. I like helping people, but having too many friends means you never have time for yourself. I like some me time once in a while just to try to get some things done around the house. I work a lot of hours at my job, so I don't have a lot of free time to give.
Posted on 10/26/19 9:25 PM
I have been blessed with a wonderful group of friends but I don't think of them as friends, they are family. When I first was diagnosed with breast cancer & started telling my friends I had to tell them I was choosing to not go the traditional way of treatment and I needed their support of my choice even though they might have other feelings. It is a personal disease and a personal choice that you alone need to make. I had a couple of friends that said, after they were told "You are just going to die then?!" I said,"That is something we are all going to do and I believe we all have a day we are going to die, and when that day comes, nothing will stop it, not matter what we do, but I am going to fight the cancer, just with natural methods and not with the poisons the medical industry pushes." I also believe I am going to a wonderful place when I die and I will be great either way. They have all been wonderful, especially, 1 of my best friends, my husband. I support any of my family & friends who choose to go the traditional route too, I spent every hospital stay with my sister, chemo treatment and anything else any of them would chose. I believe my friends are just family born to different parents, and sometimes your own biological family are not family at all. I love & treasure them and am so thankful for them everyday.
Posted on 10/26/19 11:19 PM
My friend is my fiance and the love of my life! We both have health issues and support each other when things get bad. Our love keeps us strong and able to meet each day as it comes! I also love this family of friends on Carenety,because everyone cares for each other!
Posted on 10/27/19 10:47 PM
Good friends are always there to lend an ear.
Posted on 10/28/19 8:09 PM
I did not I have enough friends thru all this. When I had an 8 hour major surgery on my esophagus, nobody was there to see me or support me in any way. I had one friend who took care my son while I was in for 6 day stretches. So yeah, so called friends disappear when the Big C attaches itself. I lost everything fighting this. My kid and I live in a damn motel. Life isn't great. Losing your lives savings and your home is terrible thing.
Posted on 11/7/19 8:56 PM
Hey all! I would like to start off saying who I am.. My name is Maryanne and I do understand in how some of you feel. Although I do have two very special friends that are like my sister's, I love them both too death. I was diagnosed with Thyriod Cancer but in August of this year, and I had my Thyriod removed September 30th. I am so greatful to have had them as my friends. It's been a real struggle for me and not just for me but for my family as well.
My husband and my to adult boy's are there for me but sometime's they don't like to talk with me in what is happening to me. It is a strain on all of them. So when I need someone to talk with I do call upon my friends ,and we go have a girl's day out. And like someone said on here we have a wonderful group where we can talk with each other....
Posted on 11/7/19 10:31 PM
@cancerdad66 I am so sorry to hear what you have went through. I know the struggle it is to make ends meet now-a-days & you add an illness that strips you of everything happens too much is our society. It's not right, while big pharm, insurance co.,medical industry, and the politicians the buy get richer. I hope you are filing bankruptcy because that's the only choice left. A person with cancer and insurance goes through their life savings (if they have any), in 2 yrs. What about the spouse that is left, when that person loses their fight with cancer,...etc? They are not only losing their spouse but 1/2 of their income and left with all the bills. We need socialized medicine & maybe we would have treatment to make us better, without being rich and not just drs. sending you to more test, more specialist that repeat the same tests, and not as many medical deaths by error competing with almost as many as cancer. (and some of the cancer deaths probably are from medical error too. I apologize for ranting on about this but I get so sick of people going through a life threatening illness having to have the added stress of losing everything, because they got sick.
Try to stay strong and don't push away anyone who tries to be there for you. You shouldn't have had to be alone for your surgery. I lost my sister to ovarian cancer 11 years ago and was at her bedside ever hospital stay,chemo & friends were always asking what they could do. Sometimes you need to tell them, "well I could use someone to be there for my for surgery, I could stand someone to pick up my meds or drop off groceries this week, or I really need someone to come to my place and just talk of listen to me." Sometimes people really want to help but don't know how, or are afraid of interfering & it's a relief when you ask them so they can help, without the worry of disturbing you.
I really pray your life gets better. Don't get down on yourself, you are still the person you were. You didn't choose this life or contribute to it by bad choices, it happened to you. Your not your cancer, you are a good person and doing the best you can to get through everyday, and that takes a very strong person. God bless. A friend
Posted on 11/8/19 3:59 PM
Thank you kind words. I have lost everything. I have nothing. I even had to sell my musical instruments that brought. Joy. We haven't eaten in two days Nobody will help with anything. We live in the stingiest city in America. It's very wealthy and religious. And these people hate us for being sick and poor. It's awful. I don't even have 5 cents. We have no place to live, because you have to be rich just to be .accepted. I never thought people could be so cruel. I was told by a minister that was poor because I spent my money on dope and alcohol and that nobody ended up like us unless we were dope addicts. It's awful. can't hold on much longer.
Posted on 11/8/19 7:34 PM
My heart say, I not come next time on the earth.