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Posted on 11/14/19 2:10 AM
It has been a horrible week. I had to ask for a demotion at work because I couldn't handle the stress anymore, which means less pay. I am pregnant with my second child and doing everything by myself because me and my husband are separated. To make things worse I got off work a few minutes late and was rushing to pick my child up, ended up running a red light and was pulled over. Now i have a $150 ticket that I cant pay. Do you ever feel like a complete failure at life?
Beginning of the discussion - 11/17/19Struggling to cope... do you ever feel like a failure at life? https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/struggling-to-cope-do-you-ever-feel-like-a-failure-at-life-1316
Posted on 11/17/19 4:11 AM
Unfortunately, yes. But I try to kick that thought when it comes to mind because I know I am not. Everyone has their harships and challenges... I have found that I used to spend a lot of time on Facebook and Instagram, looking at friend's and couple's posts and pictures and even friend's of friend's posts and pictures. I realized how much time I was spending and that it was killing me inside because I was trying to compare my life to what I was imagining someone else's life being 24/7 through a brief moment in time of that person's life: a picture or a post.
I have since removed Instagram and seldom use FB. It has helped me immensely.
Posted on 11/18/19 3:18 AM
i been feeling depressed a month already. After my seperation with my boyfriend at times i feel scared lonely just want to be isolated. I need feedback on what to do cuz in order for me not to feel this i drink alcohol
Posted on 11/25/19 1:50 AM
@Sadpanda1122 I think it's hard not to feel like a failure. I Am a senior engineer at a multi billion dollar corporation. I am not bragging as I too feel like a failure. Life is so hard and at times it feels like there must have been something you did to deserve it as others seem to be good. Ignore the fancy holiday pictures on Facebook. People generally post what they want people to see. I know people who seem to have different lives. The ones I know and the ones they portray on social media. Sometimes it feels as though nothing we do is good enough. But remember you can only do what you can. You are a single mother with a career. That makes you a success irrespective of the turmoil that life throws at you.
Posted on 11/25/19 5:01 AM
I doubt anyone will reply to this but I’m struggling with inner conflict and I don’t know what to do I’m hurting my loved ones by being secluded and taking out my anger out on them without realizing it my past is behind me but depression and anxiety follows me everyday I get unwanted thoughts and get into a deep darkness idk what to do bcuz my mom doesn’t believe in taking me to a doctor so I don’t know forsure what’s going on with me I would never fake this shit either it hurts to deal With this everyday and when I think I’m getting better I just fall again and don’t know how to pick myself up without faking it and everyone thinking I’m fine when I’m really not I don’t mean for this to sound desperate but I need help idk what to do idk who to talk too
Posted on 11/25/19 5:59 PM
@Ahciejkfwjhxiwj I'm sorry I don't have any great advice, I just wanted you to know that I feel exactly the same way. Sometimes it helps knowing someone else out there feels the same.