Topic of the discussion
Posted on 9/29/21 6:32 PM
I have a question about stonewalling. What does it mean when you give a person answers that they want but instead of thinking it's the truth they call it stonewalling?
My Fiancee has asked the same questions over and over for about a year and I keep giving him the same answers. But he keeps telling me I'm lying and stonewalling him. What's he trying to accomplish? He keeps telling me that he should talk to me about anything but I have no reason to lie to him. I've talked to him till I'm blue in the face and he refuses to believe me to the point if he doesn't drop it I don't want to be around it anymore. I've hurt my diaphram once yelling at him cause I'm telling him the truth and it made me cry several times. I don't know how to approach the subject anymore because he keeps making it out like I come up with evil shit to say when I am fed up with talking about it. I need advice and he'd be mad at me if he knew if I was on here because he doesn't believe in outside opinions but I've addressed the problem so many times, I just need advice. Please help me decide what should I do because he expects me to be a broken record and repeat myself as many times as necessary. I'm fed up with it.
Beginning of the discussion - 10/4/21Stonewalling in a relationship: How to deal with it? https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/stonewalling-3805
Posted on 10/4/21 3:12 AM
Leave. Seriously. He won’t change. It’s a broken record for you too I bet. Fine for a while. Then out of the blue questioning and not believing. On and on. And on.
he doesn’t want outside advice because he likes to be the one in control. Walk away. If it hasn’t gotten physical yet it might. If it has already then you have your answer. Leave.
Posted on 10/4/21 6:08 PM
Yes it's a broken record, no he won't ever hit me. Sometimes they are different questions, but he keeps trying to find me in a lie when there isn't one. And he doesn't believe my story because "it's always the same answer". Anyways, I beat him at the game until he was disgusted with asking me the same ones. It's other things he rags me on and I beat him at that game too but he keeps ragging me about it.
Posted on 10/4/21 9:41 PM
Get out they will never change. I'm engaged and don't feel like I can leave. I don't deserve anything better. It's a long story and I'm afraid to type anything on these sites incase someone sees it that knows me. But that's just me being paranoid I have No one to talk to no friends where I live I go to work part time and come home.
Posted on 10/6/21 1:32 PM
If you have talked to him about the situation and he still keeps digging for what he thinks is the truth it’s a never ending battle. I have been on both ends with my wife I have done the digging and so has she. In the end we talked it all out and that’s all you can do. So if you are talking and he refuses to listen I would say leave the situation.
Posted on 10/6/21 6:21 PM
I tried to ask him to drop it but he refuses it. And he makes stuff up too. Then he tries to use film and says police use film all the time and I'm so fed up with the situation that it is driving me crazy to tears. We had a final talk about it yesterday and if he refuses to drop it after that I'll have no choice but to leave because I'm emotionally exhausted.
Posted on 10/13/21 1:56 AM
Hello everyone; I joined because I’ve discovered my boyfriend has been texting women inappropriately and had an affair involving three people. I feel really violated because we were still intimate and he never told me. It was months ago and i threw up and cried and I just wanted to stop feeling anything , I really need support