How can I improve my relationship with my daughter-in-law?

I think it's okay if she doesn't like you, in fact you may not like her.  The important part is that there be no question that you love your son and his family. I think all you can really do is to be there when or if you are needed. Some times we have to love from afar. I hope your situation gets better for you 

Thankyou,she shares pictures and other things with everyone  except me.She has bad mouthed me to a few neighbors and they act like they hate me.Not sure what she has said to them.I tried everything to help her with her kids and pets.My son said something to her, but she denied everything. Just going on with my life.