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Posted on 6/1/21 9:49 PM
When I met my husband, he seemed great at first... he was thoughtful, gentlemanly, sweet but it's about 3 years later and he's so mean. He gets so irritated when I have negative emotions, he calls me dramatic and tells me I make things up. He curses at me and says things that he knows will tear me apart and justifies it by saying he was just trying to get me to shut up and that he doesn't actually mean it.
I also don't have any friends to talk to anymore. Since I dedicated my life to Christ, they all left me and called me brainwashed. Church is how I recovered from my addiction to alcohol and reliance on majuana to feel calm. I didn't invite them or preach to them, they just called me brainwashed and treated me like I had a disease. I haven't talked to them in 4 years.
I'm very active at my church, I lead massive groups of people. I'm also new at our church we just moved to so I don't want anyone to know I'm struggling mentally, at least not while I'm smack in the middle of the storm. I feel like I have no one to talk to. I don't trust anyone. I have a hard time being close to anyone. I'm starting to feel like it's impossible.
I don't want my family to know what is going on in my marriage because they will judge him and make matters worse. I don't have anyone to talk to. Is anyone else struggling with feeling trapped and stranded? I don't know what to do.... I don't want to divorce, I want to make things work.... but he's not listening to me.
Beginning of the discussion - 6/1/21Feeling trapped with no one to talk to https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/feeling-trapped-w-no-one-to-talk-to-3397
Posted on 6/1/21 11:04 PM
Hello @mrs.s.o.s., thank you for starting this discussion and sharing what you're going through. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling isolated. Feeling like you have no one to turn to when you're going through a hard time can be really difficult. Let me tag some other members who can possibly share with you.
Hi everyone, how are you doing today? Have you ever felt like you had no one to talk do when you were going through a hard time? What do you think about Mrs S.O.S.' situation? Can you share any advice or support?
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Posted on 6/1/21 11:10 PM
@Courtney_J Thank you so much for your support.
Posted on 6/2/21 12:42 AM
Hello, I’m 19 years old and I’ve been dating my boyfriend who is an addict for almost a year and we’ve been together almost 2. He recently decided to go to rehab which I couldn’t be happier about but it’s been very hard on me since we used to spend every day together and I don’t have any other friends or really anyone I can talk to about this. I also recently found out I have to move to North Carolina by the end of this month and I’ve been trying to get him to come to and he wants to but he has to figure everything out with his probation and stuff and there’s not a whole lot he can do in rehab. He said if he gets out and he can’t go that well have to break up because he doesn’t want to do long distance. I’m extremely upset over this I can’t stop overthinking I’ve spent the last 6 months of my life being lied to and manipulated by the man I love because of this disease and the thought of losing him now after everything I’ve gone through and now that he’s in his right mind scares me to death I don’t want to lose him. I’m pretty much at a loss of what to do I feel like ending my life sometimes because I just feel so lonely and depressed and scared and I have no one to talk to about anything.
Posted on 6/3/21 6:34 PM
@Kenziesallee I'm here for you. I'm a little older than you but I completely understand and am going thru pretty much the same thing. I would like to talk and I am here for you dear.
Posted on 6/4/21 1:42 AM
Hi. This is my very 1st time reaching out for help. I’ve been together with my husband for 10 years. Before him I was in a very abusive relationship that destroyed me mentally, emotionally and he physically harmed me on a regular basis for 5 years. I overcame that trauma but after being with my now husband, he started checking out other women and then making me feel like I’m crazy when I would catch him in the act. I’m positive that it has dragged my self confidence and self esteem to the ground. I’ve found myself hating every inch of my body and he has become so mean throughout the years and constantly gaslighting me making me seem like I’m the problem. It’s driving me insane literally. I’ve fallen into depression. I have no close friends to talk to about this. I have no one. I love him but today was the 1st time I’ve ever considered suicide. I have three kids and he basically called me ungrateful. I stay at home 24/7 and go out maybe once a month. I just need some kind words. I don’t know what to do