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Posted on 8/27/19 3:39 AM
I feel the depression I experience and struggle with may also have a large extent that is a result of the my poor health condition and the pain I am in as a result.
Does anyone else feel the same? What do you do to deal with this? If you cannot get rid of the condition or pain, how can you make it better?
Beginning of the discussion - 8/28/19Do you think your medical condition contributes to your depression? https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/do-you-think-your-medical-condition-contributes-to-your-depression-1228
Posted on 8/28/19 4:46 AM
@depressedme i just replied to you on another thread but like i said - i am on cymbalta which has helped me a great deal with my depression which came about due to my health. I don't think there is any magic pill to help you deal with it though, some days i still have a really had time. i try to surround myself with my support network which consist of family and close friends when i am not having a flare up and try to go about my "normal" life as much as i can. doing so help me feel like i am not losing myself to my illness.
Posted on 8/28/19 4:51 AM
yea somedays it is really hard and all i wanna do is sleep and other days i feel better - i think trying to do what makes you happy and feel productive is a good way to "deal" with it because as was said above. not losing yourself to the illness is important. i always say that to myself especially on bad days "i am not my illness". it seems silly but the more i say it, the better i feel if even for a moment. hang in there!!
Posted on 9/24/19 12:45 AM
I definitely think lupus and crohn's disease contribute to my depression. Both of these conditions wreak havoc on my body so how can it not! It gets depressing when you are always in pain and discomfort, have to be careful from spending time in the sun, constantly are tired and do not have many friends because you are not able or feel up to going out or doing anything.
Posted on 9/28/19 11:59 PM
To a smal extent it does but that is normal part of grief ever being diahnosed with an incurable condition. It's normal tp feel resentment towards God for gining you this condition. Then Iegan reading the bible and I realised that my situation was a lot like St.Pauls fist symptom o thiss disease was i went blind first in one eye and then in booth eyes. it wasn't untilg i gave up my resentment towards the Lord that my eyesight retutned thanka to solumedrol I'v's and a lot of prayer.
Posted on 10/10/19 3:30 AM
@depressedme I am sure my chronic pain plays a major part in everything I do and everything I am .Unless you have chronic pain you cannot understand and probably think I am making too much of it.
Posted on 10/17/19 2:53 AM
Hi, I have been in an emotional abuse marriage for 12 years now. I found I had MS a year in a half ago. I live with someone who is very mean at times making comments about my body and he kind of has checked out even though he tells me he loves. I believe he can only love me as much as he physically can. He is emotionally abusive to me. One time he yelled at me because my suv broke down and I couldn't reach him. I had to call a tow truck and I reached out to one of my friends. He flipped and yelled at me telling me that he was going to divorce me and I could just go home. I was so scared because I was looking at how much my medicine was going to cost for my ms and he said he was going to take my dogs. I was horrified and angry he was treating me like this. He has lied saying the he wanted children since we met. I told him it was a deal breaker if that is something he did not want. I have always dreamt of being a mother. We have went to fertility specialist and basically he wasted my time and the doctors time. He went to one appointment, then told me that he was not interested in listening to what the doctor wanted us to do. I got a cyst on my ovary due to me trying to follow what the doctor wanted me to do. I also took shots in my stomach. He would not want to be intimate with me and has not been for since I can remember. It makes me feel like I am dirt. I have talked to him about adopting and we visited a adoption event. Everything is a excuse of why he does not want to do something. I am at my ropes end. Please someone talk to me! Thank you! JP
Posted on 11/4/19 7:40 PM
Hello JP1981 , Your situation seems bleak , doesnt appear that U have any alternatives , I too am trapped in a stituation as well . I have abdominal cancer as well as Lymphatic Lynphomia , I was diagnosed on 4 22 17. Since then , 3 surgerys ,lost my job , and my car , and my house. i moved in with my daughter , That was a bad decision , her N boyfriend were not sympathetic to my condition , I have to eat a careful diet , Items they dont eat , I would go to the fridge to get a chocolate bar ( helps thicken my stoll ) only to find an empty wrapper , they would smash the candy bar in the trash and leave me the empty wrapper to torture me ,knowing without it , Id have horrible diarrhea , They would put door dings in my car on purpose , knowing how much I loved it and took care of it. Never would ask me how I was feeling , When Id run out of food, they wouldn't feed me , Or they would offer me the left over scraps from there dinner , Meat fat and the like , stuff you would feed a dog. They would have friends over , have a BBQ , and not let me eat , Then one day my daughter told me ' cant afford to feed U this week , I gotta buy dog food , so I didnt get any meeals , So I stole food from them in the middle of the night , I made a balonga sandwich , found some patato chips , and a can of soda . Few days later I got served an eviction notice , so I moved in with my mother , And the same behavior continues , my mother constantly berates and belittles me , forces me to cow tow to her , or , I dont get a meal , if I can get 1 meal a day , I feel lucky . Lotta days I dont get anything. When I try to talk to them about my health they say ' ur just using cancer as a way to get sympathy " ur not that bad off quit wining" They have both veiwed my patient portal , were present at 2 of my surgerys , the 3rd I had to go it alone , they wouldnt come , said it wasnt that important . So , I live with my mom , undr constant treats , tells me shelle throw me in the street homeless if I dont do what she says , Bullies me ,etc..etc.....In my mind Im starting to eliminate them as people in my life , Someday Ill be out of here and with have peace and happiness in my life. I dont have a job , no car , no money , no health insurance , when I moved in with my mom in Sept. 19 I came from another state , The state Im in now wants proof of residents , I only have a outta state drivers license ,theres no bills in my name , So I have to get another drivers license in this state , but I dont have any money so Im at a standstill. Point is I kinda know how you feel , but I dont know how to help you , fact is , I dont know where to turn to to help myself . But Ill talk to you , maybe we make each other feel better for just a little while.
Posted on 11/6/19 12:36 AM
Hi, I'm sad also. I hate it so bad sometimes. I'm sad right now. Really sad. But it goes up and down and mostly I have pretty good days. Tomorrow I will probably be okay, but right now sucks. I had to quit working a long time ago because of the rheumatoid arthritis. But I recently found a part time job (get this) caregiving. I can hardly take care of myself sometimes, but now I take care of people that are a whole lot worse than me. I help people who are usually 85 years old and up. We kind of take care of each other in a lot of ways. But they depend on me and that helps me feel better. It takes my mind off of my own problems and I realize that they need me just to bring them food and most of the time just to be there. Right now, I help take care of a woman who has a severe brain injury. She's only 10 years older than me and it's incredibly sad. And even though today I am in excruciating pain and things are very difficult for me and I am sad, I know that I have it really good, even when it's really bad.
I wish I could be there with you when you're sad and depressed. I know how hard it is to be alone with nobody that understands you or what you're going through. I would probably read parts of the Bible to you and tell you everything's going to be okay. I would hug you and let you know that you're not alone. I would tell you that I wish I could take all your pain away and that you don't have to go through this anymore. But all I can do is tell you is how sorry I am that you have this in your life. Put on a comfort movie, get your favorite blanket, grab the Kleenex and go ahead and have a good cry. It's ok to get it out. Once you've cried hard for the day it will subside and you can usually have a good night at least.
Keep your chin up and keep talking to people in the support groups. xxxoooxxx
All my love,
Posted on 11/19/19 1:19 AM
Thank you @jamess!
I am sorry they your daughter and her boyfriend are behaving like that. It only makes it harder to deal with life as it is, without people making you miserable. Someone told me, you don't need any help, you can be miserable by yourself. I hope things can get better for you.
Since, last month I left. I am taking control of me. I am currently staying with my parents until I can get stuff done and take care of myself fully. I know I will never marry or even have another man love me. I do not want to put my disability on anyone else. I am broken to myself and along with my disability, I have chosen men that are not good for me. They were narcissist, that were emotionally abusive, and physical abusive. They really did not love me and not that I have MS… I don't even want to try.