Topic of the discussion
Posted on 8/6/20 1:27 AM
Hello everyone I’m new to the group I just had a baby and I have 3 other young children and I just went through a terrible breakup and I’m just trying to stop stressing because I’ve been very secluded lately I really wanted my family to work but this guy really has tried to bring me down and play with emotions
Beginning of the discussion - 8/6/20Alone after a terrible breakup https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/breakup-2311
Posted on 8/6/20 3:57 PM
@Andreaj93 Hey, I'm sorry you're going through that, especially after just having a baby. I hope you have friends and family around to give you a lending hand. I don't know your situation, but if he was someone who played mental and emotional games with you, maybe you are better without him. I hope you're doing ok, you always have us on here to talk to!
Posted on 8/6/20 4:29 PM
Yes and he still is trying to pay mind games with me I’m even short $200 on my rent because I had to get food and diapers for my kids and he don’t care then he tries to use our children as an excuse to get back at me I’ve been with him for 10yrs since high school, I feel like he wants to be my enemy and in competition
Posted on 8/10/20 11:32 PM
I raised my two boys by myself. I threw their father out when I was pregnant with my second son and never have heard from him again or saw a dime.
Looking at those little babies who depended on me for EVERYTHING, I had a choice.
To sink or swim.
I decided to swim hard, and took on two sometimes three jobs just to make ends meet and found safe people to watch my children when I was at work. It was not an easy time at all Financially or finding the safe care for them, but I MADE it work and you can too!!
Being a mother and loving your children it’s not the hardest part.
A hard part is finding a decent honest hard-working man that they can look up to! If you can’t find that then you have to be that person.
My boys love me for my strength and for always being there for them. Life hasn’t been perfect for any of us, but we do the best we can and we have to get rid of the negatives in our lives.
I know it’s a scary thought to be on your own, but you CAN do it.
Give yourself a break!! and have some faith in YOU, not him. Cuz you CAN NOT change a person, even with love.
My best to you!