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Posted on 12/30/18 5:32 AM
i recently started dating a guy and he has been amazing. We’ve trukt fallen in love with one another. However, recently he hasnt been communicating with me. His cousin has just passed away and he is pretty shaken up about that but didnt think that was a reason to stop communicating. He sent one message saying he needed time and that he was suffering from anxiety and was depressed. He went about 3-4 days without talking to me at all. I texted/called no response. He eventually called and said he was feeling sad and he spoke with a counselor. We talked and things seemed to have been getting better and he planned to come down to see me a couple days later. We talked repeatedly leading up to the day he was suppose to come.when the day arrived when i was suppose to see him, he sent me a message saying he wants to see me really bad but hes feeling very anxious and stressed out. I been texting and calling no answer. Its been about two days since he sent that message and since ive heard from him. After reading articles on depressions/anxiety, i know it is what he is suffering from. What should i do to help him?
Beginning of the discussion - 12/30/18Boyfriend suffering with depression/anxiety https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/boyfriend-suffering-with-depressionanxiety-654
Posted on 12/30/18 5:36 AM
I dont know if i should continue reaching out even though he is not responding or give him space. He said he needs to think about everything and that he needs time. i really am lost and depressed cause i miss him so much. I want to give him time but i also dont want us to drift apart. Im not sure how much time he needs but the uncertainty is killing me. Im feeling anxious about our future and whether he is going to stay with me.
Posted on 1/27/19 5:32 AM
@abdouglas I am sorry you are going through that and it is hard to say. People with depression tend to want to be alone, but it is not always the best medicine for us. However, anxiety is slightly different... and if it is anxiety of seeing you or perhaps going back to the real word after such a traumatic experience, it may send him to sensory overload.
Was he really close to his cousin?
Did he have depression or anxiety before this event?
What is the situation like now?