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lori49

07/12/2019 at 2:53 AM

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Hi everyone,

My husband is struggling with this and he was depressed, but now it almost seems like as if he is giving up. I am looking for any other people's help who are also taking care of someone with cancer or anyone with cancer who can lend some insight on how I can help him more ... I do not want him to feel inadequate or depressed. I am here for him.

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Tamlisa

07/18/2019 at 5:14 AM

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Lori49,

Is your husband doing treatments or is he done?

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08/12/2019 at 3:39 AM

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@lori49‍ Did you know you can always use the Search tool to find members? You can click here to access this tool, but it is always available by hovering over the SHARE link and clicking "Search for friends."

Hope this helps! Please let me know if you have any questions.

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lori49

11/01/2019 at 2:24 AM

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@Tamlisa‍ sorry for not responding immediately. He is done now. However, he is still struggling - he still seems defeated. Even though the doctor says the cancer has been removed. Seems like he is still fearful of it coming back.

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Tamlisa

11/24/2019 at 6:24 AM

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Lori49, I understand what he is going through. April 25th I will be cancer free for 2 years but in the back of my mind I have that fear that it will come back. I don’t think that will ever go away. I just live my life. I pay more attention to my body now and I have my oncologist and my pcp that I see every 3 months which does help but it’s still in the back of my mind. Has your husband talked to someone? That may help.

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12/09/2019 at 5:56 PM

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I agree that the fear never goes away. The best you can do is to listen and be there for him

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DCline3dogs

02/18/2024 at 9:05 PM

I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.

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