Posted on 7/20/18 1:22 AM
I dont blame people who have never had severe depression for making suggestions based on their experiences bc they really will never know what its like to lose hope and will to live. In any other disease or human tragedy the person always has a will to fight and overcome the affliction but what happens when there is no fight left? What happens when the inner spirit of a person is void and empty with no connection to this world? To say this is a matter of being strong vs weak is what is keeping us in the dark ages when it comes to truly understanding this horrific disease. Science has already proven it is hereditary and it exists. Let's not oversimplify this by just saying you have to be "strong" or "move on". I know you wouldn't walk into a cancer center and tell those people to just deal with it so why do it here? Depression is a life long battle that as of today has no cure in sight. The struggle to the depressed person is not to get ahead or constantly be happy. The struggle is to find some shred of motivation to even take your next breath. Try living every second of your life with no hope for tomorrow or no hope for normalcy. You feel alone, isolated, and on the sidelines while everyone else lives their lives with purpose and meaning. People who live with depression our true warriors bc we fight for meaning in our lives, to stay connected with loved ones, and to simply get out of bed, etc.
Posted on 7/20/18 11:19 PM
@LynndMS amen ?
Posted on 7/20/18 11:51 PM
@Dcass22 thank you. I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Posted on 7/21/18 11:44 AM
I agree as well. Perfect
Posted on 7/22/18 5:22 AM
Very well said
Posted on 7/22/18 3:41 PM
I have MS and living with the unpredictability, having friends and family scatter away because they either don’t know what to say or don’t want to deal with being responsible for the person is an eye opener and also leaves one vulnerable to others who want short term benefits (I’m female and the occasional man comes along pretending to care but really doesn’t want a long term relationship because no one does). I can’t work anymore. I repeat myself. And it scary and lonely. Talk about losing the will to live ...
Posted on 7/31/18 5:04 AM
I just finished reading the posts in this discussion and I must say It feels nice to know that I am not alone in my views on depression. That there are others like me who struggle with it on a daily basis. It is hard is it not? The struggle that we face everyday? I scoff inwardly when friends and others tell me to 'find what makes me happy' or to 'look for those silver linings'. Little do they know that you must first want to and be motivated to do those things in the first place. Hard to do when you are trapped in a depression trap that seems to be an endless closed loop. They don't understand just how fragile our psyches are or how vulnerable.
Lately I think I have made a bit of a breakthrough with my depression problem. Although I am reluctant to share it with you all as I think it might not be well received, I feel obligated to do so anyways and hope it helps some of you. Most people will tell you to look towards God and look for those things that do make you happy, big or small. I totally agree with these sentiments but to get to that level of thinking I had to use another medium so to speak. I chose anger. One day I took a long hard look at myself in the mirror and asked myself some questions. 'Is this how I want to spend the rest of my life?' 'Do I not deserve to be happy?' 'When did I give up on myself and life?' As I begun this train of questions it sparked my anger and I further looked at what I have been doing. Years wasted, opportunities missed, love lost, etc....it almost drove me back to the depression pit but I held unto my anger and further cultivated it. Last thing I asked myself was 'If I don't like this shit, what was I willing to do about it?'
So by firmly using my anger I focused on the villain of my story, depression itself. I hate depression. I loathe depression. It has cost me a lot of time and happiness. So I am saying FU depression! you are not gonna get the best of me. You will not dictate the rest of my life. Slowly I have begun to change small things in my life. Routines and such things. It is hard to break habits years in the making but I am angry and determined. The battle we all face is a tough one and our enemy is cerebral and unmerciful. I for one will give it my best shot to defeat this ahole because I am worth it and so are all of you. No matter the methods I wish all of you the best of luck in fighting this fight and hope we all succeed. Hit me up if you need someone to listen to you, even if its just to rant or rave at the world. Sometimes it helps to just shout at the world :)
Posted on 8/1/18 9:20 PM
@tamara1 I can understand and feel your pain. I have to many times felt and have attempted to take my life more then once. But there is something I realized that I never understood. I am here for a reason. So are You. I know life feels bleak or even worse like a bird in a cage hitting against the Hard cold bars with broken wings bleeding. But You Are here for a reason. You are loved
Posted on 8/2/18 10:52 AM
It's the excitement and thrill that's all. That will where off. Then he will realize the kids are the one who got hurt. Mean time he is sleeping with many partners. There is always a price to pay.. I feel if you are going to do that at least be honest so you can protect you from diseases and the financial burden. This is why I don't get involved my wife influenced me into the military and the union. Payed for her x funeral
Posted on 8/6/18 6:55 PM
I feel just like most of you do. My life only consists of me and my 2 dogs. I have no one else to help me get better. I just want to die and each night I pray to God that he takes me, but every morning here I am starting another day all alone