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Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment?

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08/14/2019 at 1:21 AM

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H‍ello members - I am posting this on behalf of @Perrie123‍, who expressed the following below. Please share or comment if you have any advice or experience/opinions to share.

"Is it possible for a man to have a private male examination without having a female seize control of his genitals and abuse him as she wishes? Are there no male urologists and oncologists who treat men in a professional manner? I have not found a single physician in the Baltimore/Washington area who can give me an examination or treatment without turning my genitals over to his female accomplice to abuse me as she wishes. They even require females in pairs to undress us, female medical operators of the devices used in the medical procedure, females to discuss care of our male genitals and issues, and even allow non-medical female personnel such as receptionists, to enter the examination and treatment area. I now use only dietary, herbal and non-traditional medical treatment of my aggressive prostate cancer. I shall never submit to another female dominatrix exercise."

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08/19/2019 at 4:53 AM

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@Perrie123‍ I am sorry you are struggling to find a doctor that is a male urologist and whose assistants are also males. I understand seeing a female nurse, assistant, or doctor with a condition such as prostate cancer (or anything exposing or regarding a males private parts) can be daunting.

Did you have a poor experience where the women medical providers did not act professionally? Or is it more of an uncomfortable feeling with discussing the condition or undergoing a physical examination?

It was uncomfortable for me also... The initial appointment and examination were definitely and unconformable situation for me.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-19 04:53:09
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08/19/2019 at 6:27 PM

I have a male urologist who has a female physician assistant. Both are very considerate of my masculinity, taking into consideration that prostate cancer is very emasculating. The physicians assistant (female) has never done anything to make me feel abused. She is very knowledgeable and considerate.

The nursing staff if also very considerate and takes time to understand how I feel, and are very diligent in keeping my privacy.

The support staff has never been in my exam room.

 


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-19 18:27:35

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@Raymond Thank you for sharing your experience with @Perrie123‍ 


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-21 02:06:39
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08/23/2019 at 3:40 AM

I second @Raymond‍ I have not experciened anything to the extent mentioned in the comment. However, in general prostate cancer and the whole process is emasculating... I do not think any man feels more manly because must reveal himself physically and emotionally.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-23 03:40:57

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08/27/2019 at 11:06 PM

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@prostatecnr  I have experienced abuse multiple times ranging from women's empowerment exercises to a full blown dominatrix exercise which was brutal, painful, vulgar, unnecessary and unwanted.  My medical insurance company provided me with psychological counseling to try to make me whole after the worse of the experiences.  The women at the insurance company knew immediately what the issue was and offered me a choice of the psychologist who would treat me, 

I see no reason a man should have his most sensitive and private parts turned over to a woman to do with his genitals what she wishes.   This torture goes beyond any male feelings of inadequacy or emasculation.  All I seek is treatment with respect for my dignity, privacy and most of all safety.  Why are there no male nursing assistants? Can we at least not be provided with a male chaperon to protect us from abuse?  It is clear these women are not vetted to determine why they choose to spend their day dominating and abusing men through our genitals.  They don't even ask before they seize control of our genitals.  Men also have the right to control our bodies.  I do the things these females seize control of my genitals many times a day without any pain or smashing and crushing of testicles. 

 My final hope is again my insurance company to find a doctor who can give me an appropriate medical procedure.  In the interim I have opted to have no medical treatment for my aggressive prostate cancer.  Better to die with my dignity than be tortured and and brutally abused.  If any one knows of a urologist in the Baltimore/Washington area who has hired a male medical assistant and can give a man private professional medical treatment, I would appreciate your help.  I am having trouble getting pass the female gatekeepers who prevent a man from choosing his doctor.  The last one told me, "There are no men working here."  I have even been told I could only change doctors once because "they didn't want me shopping around for a doctor."  So much for medical insurances being the ones who limit our choice of physicians .


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-27 23:06:07

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@jonlo11 This goes beyond discomfort.  Perhaps I have a greater need of respect for my privacy because I grew up with three sisters, no brothers and a father who spent most his career as a submariner whom we did not see for long periods of time;  however, I do not see any reason for complete disregard of a man's dignity, privacy and safety under the guise of a medical procedure.  My experiences with urologists, oncologists, and even MRI technicians goes beyond daunting.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-27 23:21:44

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08/28/2019 at 12:02 AM

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@Raymond I am glad that you received such professional treatment.  With one exception out more than a half a dozen experiences the female nursing assistants have been rude, aggressive and have shown no respect for my dignity, masculinity, privacy or safety.  I am intact and they have seized my genitals and retracted my prepuce with more force than I use to rip the top off a sardine can.  One even kept her hands on my penis during the entire procedure tugging at my penis so that she was able to smash my testicles, when I could have easily retracted my prepuce and given the doctor access to my meatus, which was all that needed and which I do several times a day when I must urinate and when I clean and bathe my genitals.  The last time two females besides the nursing assistant were sent to undress me.  I have been dressing and undressing myself for the better part of three quarters of a century and I dressed myself that morning by myself and would undress myself when this ordeal was over.  The reception room females announce to the whole waiting room why I am there and tell me how to take care of my genitals, which I don't need from them.  

The one time I received appropriate professional treatment was from a doctor who could  not give me all the procedures I needed such as surgery to implant the gold globules to guide the radiation treatment  beam or the fusion MRI and sonogram.  Instead I was assigned to a doctor whose first contact with me was with his three female assistants and when I asked him just how many women were needed to give a man a private examination, his impertinent non-response was " As many as needed."  Because I had complained, there was a black male nurse assigned to me, but the doctor let his white female assistant run the show.  She objected when my protector inserted a pillow to protect my genitals she but he ignored her and prevailed, and when the doctor asked me to position my body on the table she wrestled me into position until the male said, "That's enough." 

So I do not share a common experience with you.  And the medical establishment wonders why black men in particular do not seek medical treatment for male problems.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-28 00:02:56
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08/28/2019 at 1:06 AM

My gracious; it doesn’t sound like you were treated with very much compassion at all. I’m sorry your experience(s) haven’t been as you would think they ought to be; with kindness and good care.


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08/28/2019 at 9:12 AM

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Thank you my friend.  Your kindness means a great deal to me.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-28 09:12:31

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08/30/2019 at 3:56 AM

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I know that there is no professional examination without having my genitals turned over to a female.


Does anyone struggle with female practitioners not respecting a man during examination and treatment? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-prostate-cancer/does-anyone-struggle-with-female-practitioners-1211 2019-08-30 03:56:06
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