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Katie1985

11/04/2021 at 3:37 PM

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Hi, I've just joined so I hope it's ok that I post here.

I'm newly diagnosed with ovarian cancer and from what I've heard and read it looks like I'm in for years of treatment. I'm 36 and I don't have a partner or children.

Apparently the chances of recurrence and metastasis are pretty high, especially in the next few years. And then, if I get through this, I will likely not be able to have children, or if I still can, it'll be hard or complicated.

Just before I learned about all of this I joined a dating app... Yesterday, someone on the app messaged me and we chatted a bit. Then a lot of questions went through my head. Is it right to bring someone into this mess? Is is right for me to love and be loved right now? Am I selfish for wanting a 'normal' life?

Does anyone else feel like this? Have you been here? I feel like I'm spiraling with all of this.

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11/04/2021 at 4:46 PM

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Hello @Katie1985‍, thank you for sharing what you've been going through. Navigating relationships when you're dealing with a serious diagnosis can be challenging. Let me tag some other members who can possibly share with you.

Hi everyone, how are you today?

Can you relate to what @Katie1985‍ is feeling? Do you think it's hard to meet people when you have cancer? How do you navigate romantic relationships?
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Don't hesitate to share your experiences and advice with us here!

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saffiree5

11/04/2021 at 5:51 PM

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We’ll not sure what is being addressed here…. Ovarian cancer or getting involved romantically with a cancer diagnosis. I was diagnosed in 1971 with ovarian & survived. And a relationship is not real high on my priorities.

How to meet someone romantically when you have cancer? https://www.carenity.us/forum/cancer/living-with-cancer/how-to-meet-someone-romantically-when-you-have-3923 2021-11-04 17:51:30

Alsunna69

11/08/2021 at 6:15 PM

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@Katie1985 I just got diagnosed with BC, also had a DMX I feel the same why. Do I even bring someone into this mess.

How to meet someone romantically when you have cancer? https://www.carenity.us/forum/cancer/living-with-cancer/how-to-meet-someone-romantically-when-you-have-3923 2021-11-08 18:15:09

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DCline3dogs

02/18/2024 at 9:05 PM

I completely understand as I don’t have anyone to talk to also. I’m a widow & I live alone. My oldest son died in 2021 & my youngest son & his family live 3 hours. My father is dead & my mother has chronic back pain & is immobile. My younger sister lives with our mother & she is going through a divorce from her husband who abandoned her. My sister doesn’t visit me, help me, call me & rarely texts me. I have various cousins, a niece & nephew that are spread out in nearby states but are hours away from me. After I told my friends I had cancer, they quit contacting me. I have learned how to be my own care giver. It has been very difficult. I’ll admit I’ve been depressed, cried a lot, felt sorry for myself but I never gave up. I prayed & read my Bible everyday. Then I found cancer groups online like this one where I could share what I was going through & got empathetic responses. That really kept me going. I hope you find someone to talk to but I highly recommend the online cancer chat groups.

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