Who helps you with your condition?

Seventeen years ago my wife of 39 years died, and after a year of grieving, I volunteered at the food pantry, where I worked for 11 years. When my deteriorating health due to emphysema forced me to quit my volunteer job, I had accumulated several good friends among fellow volunteers. One who is also a neighbor picks up my mail for me and takes me to medical appointments, while another does my grocery shopping for me and puts out my trash for pick-up every other week. We were in our late 60s when my wife died, and had saved quite a bit for extended retirement which was now all mine. I have been able to give my helper-friends substantial cash Christmas presents. I am blessed.

I suffer with fibromyalgia, depression and bpd. At times things are so bad with my fibro that I can't get out of bed, and then this leads me down the path into depression. My husband is great. Even though he works 12hr shifts, he still finds the time to look after me and make sure I'm cared for.

My way of paying back, is, when I'm in my good days, I fill the freezer with batch cooking so he doesn't have to cook, I bake him goodies (he has a seriously sweet tooth!) I always do the online shopping so he doesn't have to worry about stuff like that, I do the extra bits from the sofa or bed electronically on bad days so he doesn't have to. So he can care of me. I take care of that stress for him. And he is surprised to find its done.

He feels guilty about going out with his friends, he is a freemason and a biker, but I tell him that I want a duvet day and watch chick flicks - that soon makes him feel better about going, even then he still leaves a small flask of coffee and goodies/sandwiches for me. He needs his time away from me doing his thing with guys, relaxing.

Hi, currently I don't have anyone helping me. Somedays are better than others, not easy at times but when I get down, a little alcohol seems to help me.