Handling depression while in a relationship

I'm in a hard spot.  How do I make it clear I can't do it anymore

Hi @Option‍ ,

It's hard to say with such little info to go on. However, I keyed in on "she lies" & "it's all my fault". You may be dealing with a narcissist or at least narcissistic traits.

I've read alot about it recently and it could be that she's gas-lighting you. 

Be careful what you choose to believe. (I know, easier said than done!) Try to remind yourself that how you feel is okay, your feelings are valid no matter what the outside world says.

Our feelings are trying to tell us something, try to understand the message you're receiving.

I hope you have a good day, Kevin

My childhood is ruining my relationship with my bf 😔 my mom would yell at me and beat me until I couldn’t stand and 3 years later it still haunts me I cry and isolate myself my bf doesn’t like it I start to get clingy and I only want him for me, he stopped hanging out with his friends cause I didn’t like it. I need help he left and we have a son 

Hi @Rosey626,I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. It's so hard for people to grasp the pain of trauma like you described if they haven't experienced it themselves. Until we confront those aspects of our selves that experienced the trauma and heal the inner child, I'm afraid the triggers and relationship problems will continue for us.I do hope you find a way to help your bf understand and hopefully stand by you. If not, you'll be okay. I just know it, the folks here have been through a lot and that makes us strong. Hope you find this message helpful!Much compassion and hugs,Kevin

My process of self discovery has led me to many things, this book has been very helpful to me in understanding how my insecurities create problems within my relationships. 

The Jealousy Cure: Learn to Trust, Overcome Possessiveness, and Save Your Relationship by Robert Leahy

I take things the wrong way and I don't think most people understand how I can feel the way I do when they say or do things that hurt me. Most people can handle emotions, teasing and advice better than I can (at least that's how it seems).

I take so many things out of context, see things as a judgement or that I'm broken. I'm doing my best to accept myself the way I am, even if that's different from other people.

Compassionately, Kevin