Depression: Why is it so hard for us to admit that we're not okay?

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06/30/2021 at 6:06 PM

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Hello everyone,

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For fear of bothering those around us with "our problems" or for fear of facing our own reality, many of us have a hard time admitting that we're "not okay".

When did you realize that you weren't okay and needed help for your depression? What did you do then? Who did you turn to? Were you able to talk about it with your friends and family?
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Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!

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MonaAnn

Edited on 07/05/2021 at 6:02 PM

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In my family you weren't allowed to talk about mental health issues. My mom's brother committed suicide and everyone had a theory - he was spoiled from childhood, he drank, he didn't want to be a responsible adult, he was crazy and on and on. Years later I said in front of my mom that I suffered from depression and she said, 'don't say that, people will think you're crazy." Out of 5 kids, I am the sanest. I never ask for help in anything in my life because I grew up being told by my mom that I was not a baby, and she had 4 other kids that were more important. It took me a year after she died, to realize that I do need help, that I am not a baby, and that I don't want the chaos in my life anymore that I was raised with. It has been 4years now and I have become stronger but I still need help. I think that mental health is seen as a bad thing, and not an illness. It has a stigma attached to it and right away people think of the mental institutions of years ago. I don't talk about my feelings with my family because my mom told my siblings that I was crazy. I am not crazy, but a human being who makes mistakes and learns lessons from them. But I don't care what others say about me because I know who I am and have a great group of people who are there for me in good times and bad.

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Depression: Why is it so hard for us to admit that we're not okay? https://www.carenity.us/forum/other-discussions/living-with-depression/depression-why-is-it-so-hard-for-us-to-admit-t-3503 2021-07-03 06:41:39

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07/04/2021 at 10:44 PM

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I'm always trying to put on a happy face and not let on i'm hurting. Then once I get back home I become a recluse all over again. I make up reasons to not go visit friends. I don't think anyone else wants to be bothered because they have all their own issues. I dont know how to get myself out of this mind set.

I hope maybe by joining this group I can find others who are struggling as I am and we can help each other.

Thanks for listening...

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10/24/2021 at 8:20 PM

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@Jangee40 , you are right on about the stigma.

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10/25/2021 at 11:06 PM

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Because others depend on me to be "okay" so I put on the face that I am but internally I'm a complete mess.

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05/19/2022 at 12:37 AM

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@Abb123 hi, you posted a while ago, but I was just hgoing over all the comments once again and I thought why don't you just show them a medical article or something, that explains what depression is, and how it is a real health condition, and not just "all in your head". Would they change their attitude?

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