Handling depression while in a relationship

Hello Morgan,

Good to see you on this forum. I think you came to a good place of nourishment and encouragement. I see you have depression for a long time. I sympathize with you! Stay strong and try to be focused on getting better. Depression can start by many things but what's important is that you are dealing with it. Try to put together a game plan to solve it. I know this may sound cookie cutter and too simple to follow. However imagine where you want your life to be in 5 years. Most businesses and entrepreneurs think ahead. Yes they have problems and challenges too.

Wake up early in the am and start to think. Our brain is more powerful than you realize and can be a great source of useful thought and answers. Seek guidance from someone you can trust and can be an advocate for you. Try to get rid of sources that are making you feel down. When people are depressed, their environment is a big factor! The people that are around you need to be uplifting and encouraging. I find that depression can be alleviated by a change in environment and the people we surround ourselves. If you bf is a source of your pain, it may be time to rethink your relationship. Some people come in our lives for a season and some come in our lives for a reason. A few bullet points.

- Think ahead
- Wake up early
- Put together a game plan for a brighter future
- Find an advocate so you can stay strong and focused
- Get rid of any sources that is causing you pain

Take care of yourself and be well!

@morganhouston23 hey morgan, @hittites99‍ has some great advice there. Setting goals can really help you get through things. I'd also like to add communication. If you think your boyfriend and your relationship is something that you want in the long term and that it's not hurting you, I think you really need to try to communicate with him.  Have you told him about your depression? Does he know what you're going through?

Yes I have and he is taking it hard. I don’t know what to do his mom texted me a long message. Idk what to do or say to the message.

Thanks for the comments. 

@beauty23 why did his mom text you??? I obviously am not in your situation so I don't know what's going on, but that sounds a bit like she's overstepping her bounds. I hope you two can figure things out.

She is and it made me cry hard. I never had a mom do that to me.

@beauty23 Wow I'm sorry about that. That's really not ok for her to do that. 

Yes. 

I agree, mom is way out of line. We need compassion and understanding from the people in our lives.

I hope the best for you @beauty23‍ 

I just broke up with my girlfriend. The pain of being without out her is powerful. But being with her was unhealthy for me. It's hard, but I'm trying to put my best interests first.

My girlfriend lies all the time. It's all my fault why can't I just love her. It never ends or stops. Always a reason why it's ok for her.