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PokerFaceJess

06/30/2025 at 3:32 PM

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Greetings, Folks,

I just received a bit of surprising news from a HCP that I consulted for pain management. He is a DO, not an MD, and he's in an orthopedic practice, so I thought that he may be able to help since most of my conditions are orthopedic. He bills himself as a physiatrist/rehabilitation dr/pain management, and does not prescribe opioids. I created a "Pain Plan" of procedures I was willing to try, brought recent X-rays, and my recent medical history. He viewed all and examined me, then turned to me and admitted, "I don't prescribe opioids, but there is NOTHING that I can do for your complex pain situation. Perhaps a pain mgmt practice would be willing to help you, or a Palliative Care program." It was nice that he admitted that upfront, but it sure took the wind out of my sails! I've been referred to palliative care, but it's on the third week and they haven't called me yet. I'm so discouraged..

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07/16/2025 at 11:57 AM

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Hi @PokerFaceJess,

Thank you again for sharing your experience. I wanted to check back in and bring your message to the top of the forum, as I know it may not have been seen by many members when you first posted, but I really believe your story could resonate with others here. I can imagine how disheartening it must have felt to hear an HCP say there was nothing they could do, especially after you prepared so thoroughly.

You’re definitely not alone in facing moments like this—when a healthcare professional says they can’t help, it can feel incredibly discouraging.

To everyone reading:

Have you ever been told by a doctor that your pain was “too complex”? How did you move forward after hearing that?
What helped you navigate that in terms of next steps or simply coping emotionally?
And if you’ve had experience with palliative care for chronic pain, how did it work for you?

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Jess, I hope hearing from others brings you a little comfort as you wait for a follow-up.

Take care,

Somya from the Carenity team 🌼

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@Somya.P My neurologist gave me a script through the state dispensary for aid with sleep. It helps with sleep. The script is for low dose THC, so it aids with minor pain. I have learned through my trials of product that CBD gummies help with sleep, but not pain. In my state, CBD gummies can be bought at local corner stores.

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Edited on 03/25/2021 at 8:23 PM

Yes I agree. Im on morphine and Hydrocodone/Acetaminophen and yours as well. I have some others also. If I want to work in the back yard, I am sleep mode if I set down. The next morning and at night is paying with great pain. Its a hard road in many ways. We have to keep going best as we can. Have a smile and good day to you. I have the stimulator too.

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