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Hi. @rollingstone1. Thx for comments. I, for 1, don't think u are a bad friend. Yikes, about your friend almost taking her life!! I can relate, having debilitating depression during winter ( SAD). Summer is much brighter, no pun intended. I, wouldn't believe anyone would "choose" to be depressed, given how I feel. I've tried committing suicide a few times too, yet I'm still here. I wonder what my purpose is in life ( also single) by choice. Been proposed to twice, both I've declined. Depression is not merely skin deep, it invades your entire being. I gather u Can have it all, & still feel depressed. I'd almost call it feeling unworthy. That's how hard it can seem. I take antidepressants every day, have a therapist, psychiatrist, have had group therapy, even shock treatments. The latter works best for me. However, they can leave u experiencing memory loss, & other symptoms I don't know about. Google ECT, it's not pretty, But, it's also not like One Flew Over the Coocoos Nest. I don't know if I've helped explain what depression is or feels like, as I believe 1 has to truly go thru an event before fully understanding it. Been despondent my entire adult life, & know I had symptoms as a kid. My memory is failing due to age, & I apologize if any of this is misunderstood. I tried my best. That's my experience with depression.
Try to keep in touch with your friend. She may not have lots of additional support. And, a big thing I learned is, just listening can help. Good luck.
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Hi @Dr.WhoPeggygmail.com @rollingstone1
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Do you have a friend that has attempted suicide? Did you notice the signs or not? How do you provide support when you feel like someone has everything?
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First off, I'm really sorry you're going through this, and I'm glad your friend is getting help. Depression doesn't care about how perfect someone's life looks on the outside. It’s a real, deep, and often invisible struggle. You’re not a bad friend at all; sometimes people hide their pain really well.
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Hey yall I hope you guys don't judge me for this question, because I really wanted to understand depression better so I could be a better friend.
Overall I don't struggle with depression. Of course, I have good and bad days but nothing extraordinary tbh.
My best friend tried to commit suicide because of depression two weeks ago. Both of us are in our late 30s. She has a great marriage, her husband makes a lot of money, they travel, live in a beautiful house and overall it looks like her life is a dream. I am still single and struggle with making ends meet on the other hand. I always thought she was very happy. Until a few months ago she started telling me that sometimes she wishes she didn't exist. She said that maybe it would be better for everyone like that. I tried to reassure her that she is the best and we all love her and then boom.. I get a call saying she is in the ER after a failed suicide attempt. How is this possible? Am I a bad friend for not noticing? Can you be depressed if you have everything? It's so hard for me to understand. Help!