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YOU LOOK SO GOOD; HOW CAN YOU BE SO SICK!!!
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Hi @mickey,
Thank you for sharing this. Living with symptoms that other people cannot see can be incredibly frustrating, especially when you're exhausted or in pain and hear comments like, “But you look so well.” Looking healthy on the outside doesn't necessarily reflect what someone is dealing with day to day.
You also mentioned feeling tired even after sleeping for 10 hours. That kind of persistent fatigue can have a huge impact on everyday life, and I imagine it must be especially difficult alongside the limitations you're already experiencing.
I'd love to hear from others:
- Have people ever questioned how unwell you are because you “look healthy”? How do you respond?
- Do you still feel exhausted after a full night's sleep, and how does that affect your daily life?
- For those living with lupus, how do you personally manage sun or heat sensitivity while still being able to get out and do the things that matter to you?
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Mickey, I also hope you get the opportunity to meet and spend time with your grandchildren. ❤️
Take care,
Somya from the Carenity team 🌼
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@Somya.P HELLO, SO MANY QUESTIONS!! I AM HERE TRYING TO ANSWER THOSE QUESTIONS!! IF THERE IS A WAY THAT I CAN ANSWER SOME NOW!! I CAN START AND IF I LEAVE ANYTHING OUT, EMAIL ME WITH THE QUESTIONS I LEFT OUT, PLEASE!!! WHEN I WAS DX WITH SLE, AKA LUPUS, I PROMISED MYSELF THAT I WOULD MAKE A DIFFERENCE. I STARTED A SUPPORT GROUP 1982. I HAVE BEEN ATTEMPTING TO WRITE A BOOK BUT, I NEED HELP!! I AM HALFWAY FINISHED. LUPUS DISEASE, FROM A PATIENT'S POINT OF VIEW!!! THE PAIN HAS TO BE MANAGED BECAUSE YOU WILL GET DEPRESSED AND SOME PEOPLE ATTEMPT SUITISE (mis-spelled) Most people depend on a support system!! (Someone who shares their life with--family, friends or others that have Lupus) I wish we can talk or send a private message with those questions. I need to type it out and copy the questions. Many of those questions, I have had many experiences. I met someone in Congress. This person, I met in person and he could care less about the issue of people getting on Social Security!! (Congress person denied my request to help a child to get Social Security)
Over a short period of time--I receive a phone call, and they told me that the Congress person now has twin nieces newly dx with Lupus Disease!!! The doors opened for my child in my support group!!! He now received Social Security!!! Finally, it was a battle!!! What a way to have someone care about Lupus Disease!! They had to experience it themselves!!! Please feel free to call me on the phone-I sure you will find our conversation worth every minute. I am very sick but, always worth attempt to help someone with Lupus, especially the children!! Call Me 909483-7386 Always, Trying to help someone who wants to help themselves!! Michele aka Mickey
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@Somya.P People will never know how much a person with Lupus lives with or cannot relate at all!! When I finish my book--I went to send you a copy but, remember all proceeds for this book will pay for publication and RESEARCH!! I do not have the money for publication but, I am still looking!! I also wanted to contact Martin Scorsi, or Franes Ford Coppocal--mis-spelled and too weak to stop to correct the spelling (sorry) I was approached by someone that wanted to know my story. I am an Italian America who is very sick!!! My father would use the belt on me because I could not get out of BED!!! I was abused, more than one time of the BELT. My parents thought I was LAZY!! When I was a child, my life was like no one else!!! My experiences, I hope will help someone who wants to help themselves. The book, (I hope) will educate people about Living with Lupus!!! My father died never knowing I had Lupus, just lazy (he was 51 died of Cancer) My mother, lived with me and died in her 80's!! She eventually moved in with me and a few weeks before she died she said, "CAN YOU EVER FORGIVE US!!" I said to my mother, I forgave you a long time ago!!! She died in peace. Well, I hope you contact me by phone and I will be able to answer those questions easier. I am 73 and still ticking.
Love and Blessings Michele aka Mickye
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Ambassador@Somya.P My neurologist gave me a script through the state dispensary for aid with sleep. It helps with sleep. The script is for low dose THC, so it aids with minor pain. I have learned through my trials of product that CBD gummies help with sleep, but not pain. In my state, CBD gummies can be bought at local corner stores.
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@HelloKitty I started taking kratom when I was diagnosed with cervical dystonia, it means I have constant pulling of my neck and shoulder muscles. Botox is the primary treatment , 6 to 8 shots targeting muscles but its hit and miss. I told a friend about this and he told me about kratom, so I went to a kratom shop and talked to the owner. He learned I was an Army Veteran and sold me some capsules. Unbelievable the kratom knocked out the pain and relieved some of the spasms and pulling that was 5 years ago, and I am still taking it for chronic pain. I have found the vendors to trust and a fbook website to share experiences with others. Like all things kratom must be handled with common sense, and reading info on the web helps educate us all. IT IS THE ONLY THING THAT HELPS WITH MY CHRONIC PAIN
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Yes I agree. Im on morphine and Hydrocodone/Acetaminophen and yours as well. I have some others also. If I want to work in the back yard, I am sleep mode if I set down. The next morning and at night is paying with great pain. Its a hard road in many ways. We have to keep going best as we can. Have a smile and good day to you. I have the stimulator too.
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dan.varady
Ambassador@Somya.P My neurologist gave me a script through the state dispensary for aid with sleep. It helps with sleep. The script is for low dose THC, so it aids with minor pain. I have learned through my trials of product that CBD gummies help with sleep, but not pain. In my state, CBD gummies can be bought at local corner stores.
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Armor2
@HelloKitty I started taking kratom when I was diagnosed with cervical dystonia, it means I have constant pulling of my neck and shoulder muscles. Botox is the primary treatment , 6 to 8 shots targeting muscles but its hit and miss. I told a friend about this and he told me about kratom, so I went to a kratom shop and talked to the owner. He learned I was an Army Veteran and sold me some capsules. Unbelievable the kratom knocked out the pain and relieved some of the spasms and pulling that was 5 years ago, and I am still taking it for chronic pain. I have found the vendors to trust and a fbook website to share experiences with others. Like all things kratom must be handled with common sense, and reading info on the web helps educate us all. IT IS THE ONLY THING THAT HELPS WITH MY CHRONIC PAIN
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MountainMan
Yes I agree. Im on morphine and Hydrocodone/Acetaminophen and yours as well. I have some others also. If I want to work in the back yard, I am sleep mode if I set down. The next morning and at night is paying with great pain. Its a hard road in many ways. We have to keep going best as we can. Have a smile and good day to you. I have the stimulator too.
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THIS IN ITSELF IS A CURSE!!! I GET TIRED OF PEOPLE JUDGEMENTS. I AM TIRED AFTER SLEEPING FOR 10 HOURS!!! DOES ANYONE KNOW WHY?
I AM SENDING EVERYONE BLESSINGS, ESPECIALLY THOSE WITH LUPUS. WE CAN NOT GO OUT IN THE SUN AND HEAT BECAUSE THE DISEASE WILL PROGRESS. WE ARE CONSIDERED TO BE SHUT-INS. ONE THING MORE--FLOURSANT LIGHTING ALSO GIVES OFF THE ULTRAVIOLET RAYS!!! BE CAREFUL WHEN YOU GO TO HUGE STORES LIKE COSTCO, SAMS ALL OF THOSE THAT USE THAT TYPE OF LIGHTING. I HAVE NEVER MET MY GRANDCHILDREN AND I HOPE BEFORE I LEAVE THIS EARTH, I WILL BE ABLE TO MEET THEM AND SPEND TIME WITH THEM. PRAY FOR ME!!!
WISHING ALL OF YOU PAINFREE DAYS AND STAY INDOORS, PLEASE!!!!