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Posted on 12/12/20 5:33 AM
I'm 42, and I've had depression for the better part of a decade now. How am I supposed to live like this? Does anyone survive it? Is there anyone out there in their elder years who has had this battle and lived to tell about it?
Beginning of the discussion - 12/12/20How do I live like this? https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/how-do-i-live-like-this-2845
Posted on 12/12/20 8:14 AM
Hi Suz! I am 49, had depression for about 36 years, my girlfriend has had depression and extreme anxiety for about 30 years also. Yes it is survivable!
In my experiences you just need to mostly learn to read yourself as to your ability each day, then no matter what do, or not do, whatever you need to for that day. You have probably already been identifying triggers and any patterns your depression may have. You have different needs with depression than those who don't. If you need to spend more time recovering from an outing that was overwhelming, then take it. If there are people in your life who make you feel worse, then stay away from them as much as you can, etc... Your counseling and medications may add additional things you have to work around as well. Do them.
As for me personally, the only thing that keeps me from actually loosing my s...t most days is that I refuse to be a victim or suffer from depression. I accept that it is a part of me, and like it or not there are many things I have to do for the sake of my own sanity.
Posted on 12/12/20 3:44 PM
H Suz. I’m 42 and have been living with depression, anxiety and a number of other issues pretty much all my life. I understand your frustration. There are days I just don’t want to fight anymore. Some days are better than others. But I do struggle every single day and believe me when I say I know how terribly exhausting it is. I know for me, I’ve had to just except it is what it is and start living day by day. I can’t think about next week or next year. I have to wake up and focus on today. I have found that keeping myself busy helps (easier said than done, I know) Lately I started reading again. Getting lost in the stories stops my mind from messing with me for a little while. This site helps too, talking with others who feel the same helps.
Posted on 12/14/20 10:50 PM
Posted on 12/14/20 11:15 PM
Thank you for sharing your story. I believe it is helpful to read the experiences of others, reinforcing to me we are not alone, although it sometimes feels that way. It's an unselfish gesture by you or anyone who shares their experience with others. Thank you....Al
Posted on 12/15/20 1:20 AM
@Alberto you're very welcome. I agree that us sharing with each other and not feeling so alone in this battle helps :)
Posted on 12/15/20 4:38 AM
Hi I am new here but I have had depression and anxiety pretty much as long as I can remember. I’m 43 and divorced and I’m like many of you it is a daily struggle and some days are harder than others. I’m determined that I will not give up, I will not give in and let it kill me. Some days I can’t fight but I still have hope for tomorrow. Knowing that others do understand and go through the same things I do helps so much. Love to you all! We can survive.
Posted on 12/17/20 1:00 AM
I am 62 years old and still suffer from depression. It started when I was in my early 20s. I was able to control my depression for a number of years. As I started getting older in my 50s it has been a struggle. I take two antidepressants which help me relax but I still feel depressed and I am looking into other forms of treatment such as CBT.