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Posted on 6/5/20 5:26 AM
Me and a guy who is very close to me and are best friends and have had feelings involved and there always there but we arnt official got into a argument. One night I was having a depression episode and I was crying and very upset, I needed someone to talk to and he is the only one who has a idea of what I go through. So I sent him a insta post that was a quote about feeling sad and empty. Since that was the only way I could express myself at that time. His response was that was cringy. As soon as I read that text I broke down even more and balled even more. So I ranted a little bit and he said “chill your doing to much” and we went back and forth. Then he left me on deliverd for the rest of the night. This hurt me bc he fell asleep knowing I was depressed and just wanted to die. He should hav cared more. A couple days later I texted him again and the has been ghosting me ever since. It’s been about 2 and a half weeks. I am very hurt and sad. I just want to talk to him and sort everything out but I can’t bc he won’t answer me. I’m hurt but I miss him. I don’t know what to do
Beginning of the discussion - 6/5/20What do you do when the person you need the most isn't there for you? https://www.carenity.us/forum/depression/living-with-depression/conflict-2031
Posted on 6/5/20 4:31 PM
@Evamartin Hello Evamartin, thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm sorry to hear that your friend wasn't there for you when you needed him, especially when he means to much to you. Let me tag some members who can maybe share their advice with you.
Hi everyone, how are you feeling today? Have you ever been through a time when a friend let you down and wasn't there for you in a time of need? What did you do to cope? Were you able to talk to him or her? What do you think Evamartin should do? Feel free to share you stories and advice here, we're all here to help one another!
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Posted on 6/5/20 5:53 PM
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Posted on 6/5/20 8:04 PM
Posted on 6/5/20 9:32 PM
my personal experience i can never count on friends to be there when I need them and that is ok because i don't expect them to but I am a lucky person because I have my family and i also have GOD who never fails me and is always with me day or night he's always in my heart as well as my family.
Posted on 6/9/20 9:52 AM
Posted on 6/16/20 6:17 PM
@Evamartin Wow I'm so sorry your friend failed you. That is so upsetting. Not offering excuses for him because that was really not ok of him, but maybe he didn't realize the extent of your depression. Sometimes talking over text or chat can be hard to interpret emotions. But regardless you're right, he should have been there for you. Have you been able to talk to him since?
Posted on 6/17/20 7:30 AM
@jasmine1092 thank you for taking the time to read and respond! Yes I have talked to him, for a little while he did not have access to a device to text me back bc he got his stuff taken away for not doing school work ( we are teens) but that was only for a short period of time. The rest of the time he wanted a break from social media and his phone so he wasn’t texting anyone back. So he is still in the wrong in my opinion. He did said he didn’t realize it was that seriouse. That part I can be more understanding with. He apologized and said he wouldn’t do it again. I made him aware of how bad he hurt me and he acknowledged how bad he messed up. So I got my closure. I was also doing really good and for maybe a little more then a week I have been really happy bc I have got to spend some time with my brother and got to do some really fun stuff, but the last couple of days I have been down again wich sucks because I was doing so well. He still takes a while to respond and that put me on edge a little bit and triggered me bc of the previous situation. He texted me back last night but bc of me feeling down I haven’t opened it and because I don’t feel like talking to anyone. The fact the he is still taking a while to respond even after he said it would try to be better hurts, I don’t think he is aware of what he is doing so I personally make excuses for him sometimes even when I shouldn’t. But I think I have to accept that I can’t rely on him, I can’t be dependent on a person who I can’t rely on in a time of need. Thank you for listening!
Posted on 6/25/20 10:34 PM
I had the same kind of friend. He helped me through everything. My boyfriend worked out of town and my best friend lived in my home state. So he was 3 hrs away. He promised to always be there but when I didn't break things off with my boyfriend he decided to ghost me completely and we had been friends since middle school. He just went away... I understand feeling empty and like the only person who understands you doesn't want to be there hurts. But you have to remember that you have to love yourself. You have to love you before you can love anyone else. (ru paul) ... give yourself some time to breath but also remember you can do this on your own dont rely on anyone because in the end you'll be left with nothing to stand on. I'm not saying I know everything but i do know that everyone deserves love and to be cared for. This world is a cruel place ...keep your head high and your feet on the ground. Take care of you!
Posted on 6/28/20 3:52 AM
@Hiddendiamond96 thank you for taking the time to respond and share ur experience! Since this incident I have become stronger and in the end I am ok now. And btw i loved the ru Paul quote haha.