Patients Postpartum depression
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Posted on 8/13/20 10:23 AM
Hello. I have postpartum depression and anxiety and I'm going through it really bad. I just had my baby 11 months ago and I love him . But I cry all the time even in the shower. My fiancé is stuck in another country so he missed the birth and because of covid he is now missing out on his son thats almost 1yrs old. I'm so tired I have no help really and he doesn't understand. I try to explain that being a single parent is hard and I'm so tired. And he tells me that I shouldn't think that way and that he is with me always. But he's a million miles away in Another country. He doesn't understand the meaning of postpartum depression. He thinks its something I made up and that I have to be strong and get over it . I don't have anyone to talk to . And I feel like a bad mom because sometimes I regret having a baby with a man thats not in my same country. But I don't regret my son he is my world. No one seem to care about my feelings and what I'm going through.They think its something that I make myself feel.
Beginning of the discussion - 8/18/20Postpartum depression & Anxiety https://www.carenity.us/forum/postpartum-depression/womens-health/postpartum-depression-anxiety-2347
Posted on 8/18/20 6:31 PM
@Lonestar Hello Lonestar, thank you opening this discussion, I've moved it to our Women's Health group for more visibility. I'm sorry to hear you're going through all of that alone. Let me tag some members who can talk about this with you.
Hi everyone, how are you doing? What was it like going through postpartum depression? Did you feel like others didn't believe or understand your depression? Do you have any advice or words of support to share with Lonestar?
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Posted on 8/18/20 10:32 PM
Already having depression before having my daughter the chances of postpartum depression occurring with me were 100% and yes it was horrible. Still don't think I'm really over it. It's so hard because here you have been blessed with the biggest miracle ever but the things you feel are not at all like that. Every emotional low is felt and then let's just pile on some guilt for being unable to enjoy your child. Then comes the resentment because who usually has to stop anything they are enjoying to tend to the kid? Yep mom.
Posted on 11/8/20 4:59 AM
I’m new here, I just had my second child on 10/21/20. My first is a year and a half old. And although I’ve always dreamt of having a little girl to take care of I just can’t seem to bond with her. I don’t know if it’s because she was unplanned where as our first child was planned. And leading up to my delivery my fiancé and I did nothing but fight. That’s still most of what we do, but we try to limit it in front of the kids. I just can’t beat this feeling of being a horrible mother. Especially to my son because I hardly get to spend any time with him due to caring for his little sister or because I’m sleeping because I’m just too exhausted. I feel like I get little to no help with her. My fiancé won’t get over this fear of changing her diaper even (he grew up with only boys in the family). He doesn’t feed her, or get up with her throughout the night. And on top of all else this pandemic has put us so far behind on everything it isn’t even funny. I’m just to the point I want to give up.
Posted on 12/14/20 6:51 AM
I'm new here. I just had a baby 2 months ago. Didnt think I had postpartum depression until I went back to work. I had to switch jobs because me and my boyfriend cant really afford a babysitter. I loved my old job. And I really miss it. At my new job I just end up crying towards the end of my shift knowing I cant go back to where I was working. I know it's silly. But my old job really helped me out. I actually felt part of a team there. The job I had before that fired me after I told them I was pregnant. So it really helped when they hired me. Now I feel like I'm not part of anything anymore. And I just get so upset. Not meaning to.
Posted on 12/31/20 3:35 PM
I can so relate to everything that's been posted here so far. I had my beautiful princess almost 4 months ago and she has so many special needs. (down syndrome, hearing impaired, heart defect) and she had to have emergency open heart surgery at 2.5 months. I had depression before getting pregnant and it seemed to get worse during pregnancy. When I was 6 months pregnant my brother passed away making my depression worse add on top of all this my husband is very little help with the baby. He's uncomfortable changing her diapers and because she has an NG tube he's not comfortable feeding her. His mom lives with us but she doesn't really help either she wants me to be constantly walking and talking to the baby and holding her ALL DAY LONG. I feel so guilty for not being over the moon in love with my baby girl and the fact that I actually found myself hoping that she would die while she was in surgery so I could have my life back. Please tell me that I'm not a bad person and that this will eventually get better